I have been in nikah for 4 months now. Nikah was done without ruksati, no consumation of the marriage. We live apart, problems have increased a lot, my husband has cut off ties. wether this is temporarily anger or this is definate. time will tell.
Can someone tell me the meaning of my nikah, can you inform me what is legally to be done if it ends bad.. annulement or divorce, whats the difference.
What does shariyat tell us.
Hope i can get some information here.
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where do u and ur husband live?
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Your nikah **is **still valid.. You're technically married as soon as it's done..
If it hasn't been consummated the marriage can be anulled.. With consummation you would need a divorce by talaaq (if he is doing it) or khula (if you want to)..
There is a lot of detailed info on it on Sunnipath..
Hope things work out ok for you in the end..
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I have been in nikah for 4 months now. Nikah was done without ruksati, no consumation of the marriage. We live apart, problems have increased a lot, my husband has cut off ties. wether this is temporarily anger or this is definate. time will tell. Can someone tell me the meaning of my nikah, can you inform me what is legally to be done if it ends bad.. annulement or divorce, whats the difference. What does shariyat tell us.
Hope i can get some information here.
I am so sorry to hear of this hun,
The difference between an annulment and divorce is that an annulment is basically saying the marriage is null and void...you were tricked, marriage was not consummated, etc. An annulment renders the marriage invalid. Almost like getting to "take it back" in an oversimplified way of saying it.
A divorce is stating that there was a real marriage and you two are now dissolving it. You no longer want to be married. There would be division of property (unless there was a pre-nup) and custody hearings if you had kids.
Your nikah is valid...you'd have to see a sheikh and get some advice on what to do next.
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Tx guys. Is there a time period set in which unnulement shud b done? I will check sunnipath aswell... Hes from pakistan and i live in germany. Consumation means sexual intercourse/sex right?
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^^^ yes that's what consummated means.
Also, if the marriage is not consummated and he gives the divorce, he only gives you half the haq mehr stated in the nikkah form.
Anyway, try and solve it rather than divorce/annulment, if you can. Have you tried bringing the elders in?
Sorry for your situation :(
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btw you have to PROVE annulment. So someone would want to check if marriage was consummated. :P
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Demesme how is that to be proven, thats nonsence. And who would that someone be?
I am waiting till his parents contact mine, since he has issues wid me. But he kept saying tell ur mom to contact mine (coward)... But i noticed yest he deleted me from fb and blocked whatsapp...
So im waiting...dont know for how long...
Im sad, but want to be prepared hence this topic..
Thank u...
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did you guys spend any time together?
was the nikah done in person or by proxy....like over the telephone/skype?
I'm sorry to make light of things but somehow it sounds quite infantile for someone to be blocking you from his FB and whatsapp accounts when there is so much to resolve....
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Its an arranged nikah, i went to pakistan, we had few dates and then nikah function was done. I went bac after a few days. We dated in d last days, n wedding is planned for next year. Yes its infantile.. I feel like confronting him, but then nothing will be solved only argument will happen..
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I agree with Muzna. That kind of behaviour does sound very immature. Have you talked with your immediate family, ie your parents, about this? After all they must have set you two up for the Nikkah.
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I agree with Muzna. That kind of behaviour does sound very immature. Have you talked with your immediate family, ie your parents, about this? After all they must have set you two up for the Nikkah.
I have told my mother that things are not going well. At first she said the problems are because of the distance. Now she still knows its going bad, but i dont want to continiously give her headaches.... last thing i told her was that he told me to let my mother contact his mother..this was 2 days ago... and after this i found out he deleted me from his contacts, unbelievable...
im angry at allah, for doing this to me... im 27, ive never dated guys, still finding rishta was hard, so we ended up going to pakistan i was ready to take that step. After searching in my country... n now this is happening. i want to compramise, but that would only be because i know finding a rishta is super hard. But i dont want to be unhappy either..... i just dont know what to do right now. So i decided to leave for some days and see if he does contact me or not...
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Are problems not reconcilable?
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Marriage is full of challenges that require BOTH people to communicate and compromise in order to be happy. The fact that this guy is so immature and prefers to cut you off out of his life rather than talk and try to solve the problem is beyond ridiculous. Keep in mind that thanks to the nikah…by all means you are his wife!
The idea of building a life (kids and all) with someone so immature and selfish would terrify me. 
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he is pissed off right now, this is y he did this. But i dont want to live tolerating this much anger from his side… or mine side either, i already developed acidity n neck n headaches because of him…
a part of the problem is reconcilable, that would mean i would be comprimising on everything… then it will work… im not yet ready for that…
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i didnt find anything on time period in which annulement can be done...
I think in pakistani culture people will still see it as a divorce
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ok i foudn this: Divorce: Marriage Without Consummation, Annulment, Iddah…
option one applies on us: this states 1 divorce is required
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nikaah is shaadii...there is NO concept of 'ruKhsatii' [gawnaa] in Islam...you are married in every sense...you need a divorce first to re-marry or stay married to this guy for ever if no divorce is saought/given.!
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he is pissed off right now,
Him being pissed off is not an issue. Him refusing to deal with the problem and cutting you out is.
a part of the problem is reconcilable, that would mean i would be comprimising on everything... then it will work... im not yet ready for that...
Hmm......will you ever be ready for a marriage like that? Where you're expected to compromise everything or otherwise he leaves?
I think in pakistani culture people will still see it as a divorce
Yes. Since you two aren't living together, it doesn't look like it would cause any legal issues either way (divorce or annulment). But if the ONLY reason you're considering annulment is b/c of society/culture........most desis don't care. You can tell them all about how the marriage was never consumated...was annulled etc.......but at the end, they'll still see it as a "divorce".
BTW, not sure if you have filed immigration papers for him but IF you have....and IF you're serious about ending this marriage, then you may also want to withdraw those asap too.
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you are 27......how old is he?
what does he do? (i.e. employment wise)
if you want to spare your mom the stress then are you able to communicate with your MIL/FIL on this matter?
the fact that it is difficult to find a rishta at all should not be the reason for a compromise here.......