Nightmare In-laws

[Mabrook]

Re: Nightmare In-laws

if they r rude now they'll stay pretty much the same afterwards.if u don't wanna leave him then simply do one thing.stop complaining to him n act as if nothing happened. that will make things peaceful b/w him n his family which is good for u as well.at same time tell ur mom n dad to be equally rude to ur inlaws but never infront of their son.be extra sweet infront of him.that way even if mil complains he won't take it too seriously. meanwhile u can act as the innocent sweet wife n dil

[Sara516]

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let's see how much ull be in love with him once ur married and his parents are treating u like garbage and he doesnt care.

i don't believe in this "love", its just being blinded by infatuation that's all.

[ash1718]

i so agree with sara516!

[Gr8Heera]

let's see how much ull be in love with him once ur married and his parents are treating u like garbage and he doesnt care.

i don't believe in this "love", its just being blinded by infatuation that's all.

Dil ki awaz lugti hai.

Bayimaan person always treat you like a garbage.

[Khubsoorat_Collection]

[quote="sanabanana, post:5, topic:200317"]

i am ready to tell my dad to cancel our event and write me and fiance a cheque for that money, and instead we will do a simple mosque nikkah and let them do their embarrassing function. hQUOTE]

yaar this is a better idea! having a wedding in central london hotel is more than 30k! dont make your dad pay for such a wedding if it is not easy for him! that money could be put to better use! put that money down as a deposit on a house of something or into a savings account.

get that cheque, have a small simple wedding and make sure you dont live with inlaws after marriage. lol. what is your plan anyway sana?

feel so bad for you really. awful situation esp since you are not even married yet! shocking how your future inlaws can be so rude to your parents. if they can do this ...then think what they have in store for you!!!! crazy people.

i would seriously reconsider this marriage. if he is really worth it, then marry him but you know you will have a tough time ahead. be prepared.

hope all works out for you inshallah. let us know how things go.

[Gr8Heera]

my in-laws have been very rude with my parents, they are sly and very cunning. we have only figured this out in the past few weeks as the wedding planning has started. they are creating problems out of thin air, insulted my parents to their face, are talking badly about them behind their backs, rejected my parents' gifts, and to top it off are acting as tho we are to blame.

we have not said one bad word to them, and have been nothing but gentle to them in response to their sudden rudeness.

however i am in love with their son, who is totally normal. he is extremely embarrassed and sorry about his parent's erratic behaviour, but there isnt much he can do.

has anyone had any similar experiences? is it worth it in the end? i dont have to live with them, but i will have to see them every few weeks. and knowing what they did, i wonder if ill be able to forgive them for disrespecting my parents so badly?

i feel so down and upset, and my parents just want to walk away from the whole situation.

Sana Talking about experience. Lot's of. Kia kia sunain kia kia batain. Meri bahnon kay saath huwa hai na.

Budtameez loag kabhi naheen sudhartay. The truth is Joootay khanay kay qabil hotay hain aisay loag.

Agar apni zindagi hell ki tarha guzarni hai to wahan shadi kar lo agar apnay love kay baghair zindagi guzar sakti ho to kisi aur achchay insaan say shadi kar lo.

Jub wo abhi itni budtamizi karahain hain to yaad rakhna meri baat experience say bata raha hoon tumharay aik aik lamhay ko hell banain gay wo loag.

Aur talking about his son is better to meri aik apni kahawat suno "Saanp ka bachcha sanpolia hi hota hai kay na kay amn ki fakhta".

He might be little bit different then them laikin mukummal tor par unsay mukhtalif naheen ho ga.

Agar uska baap budtameez hai to hargiz us ghar main shadi naheen karo wo bhi budtameez ho ga. Abhi apna rung na dikhay ga to baad main zaroor dikhaay ga.

Ho sakay to shadi na karo aisay ghar main.

Meri bahnon kay saath jo huwa hai aur ub tuk ho raha hai Likhoon to afsana bun jaay ga.

Aisa hi kar rahay thay shadi say pehlay jo apna rung dikhana shuru kar dain wo intehai budtameez hotain hain. Unki harkatain intehai budtareen ho gi shadi kay baad. Agar love marriage hai to *infinity kar lain. Meri bahnon ki arrange marriage thi.

[Gr8Heera]

Is this the first time the inlaws have acted this way? If so, then let it slip for now because you are in love with the boy. BUT...keep an eye out for signs and if in the future this repeats itself (inlaws behaving badly), I honestly believe you should end it or make it clear to your hubby to be that you will not meet them after marriage. You might not have to meet them for a few weeks at a time but your parents will have to stay in touch (even if it occasional) and the inlaws can keep disrespecting them.

Its always the boys side that cause more trouble because the son has less to lose from a divorce. I know someone in the exact situation as you. The inlaws were doing silly things before the marriage and then once the wedding went ahead, the inlaws were such skanks that they forced their son to divorce the girl after SIX WEEKS! He loved his wife, but didnt want to disobey his parents.

Just be careful and I pray that it is all a one off incident and nothing to worry about.

Agree about that type of ppl.

Even my sisters family started to ask for take barat back. He didn't listen to his sister.

And from the next day Life become so hell they started to ask their son to divorce her and beat her and throw her to her parents home and what not.

[Gr8Heera]

hey there girl,

u might wana do Istakhara. also his family insulting urs is not sth u shud stand. if ur fiance is teling u tat he cant do nything then sweety think wat wud he do if ur family insulted his family. i'm sure he wont stand it. so u shudnt either.

Exactly.

Ask your parent to do same thing with his parent when he is there and then see the real drama. That would be good. Doodh ka doodh aur paani ka paani alag ho jaay ga aur aap ko bhi samajh aa jaay ga kay agay ka faisla kia karna chahyay warna to bechari mohabbat main andhi kuch naheen kar paay gi.

Wo apna asli rung dikha rahain larki now it's upto you to open your eyes jis pay mohabbat ki patti bandhi huwi hai. Naheen to baad main bohat pachtao gi.

Kisi nain sahi mashwara dia hai I forgot his/her ID. Do istakhara and follow the istakhara's answer.

Mohabbat ki patti ko ankhon pay say utaro to saaf nazar aay ga naheen to ankh hotay huway undhon ki tarha faisla karo gi.

[dulhan_to_be]

Re: Nightmare In-laws

so sanabanana, hows it going with in-laws? are they any better?

[jalebi121]

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You need to make a sakht face with your fiance and tell them he needs to straighten them up...how did these behaviors keep continuing?? It means he didn't say anything. If his parents are already showing so many teeth, there will definitely going to be problems after marriage. You need to be firm about your expectations, and he needs to communicate them to his parents...dont marry a wussy guy.

[Gr8Heera]

You need to make a sakht face with your fiance and tell them he needs to straighten them up...how did these behaviors keep continuing?? It means he didn't say anything. If his parents are already showing so many teeth, there will definitely going to be problems after marriage. You need to be firm about your expectations, and he needs to communicate them to his parents...dont marry a wussy guy.

Agree.