Re: Nightmare In-laws
Hey Sana, I'm really sorry to hear about your situation, mother in laws are usualy very possessive about thier sons, it can be quite sickening! But sweetie you fiancee HAS to and SHOULD stand up for you, infront of his parents and Islamically speaking, they have to respect his chocie if they dont, well thier doing Gunaah (tell your fiancee to bring up islam and how inappropriate they are) A man has the right to chose a wife, without even consulting his parents, the parents have to respect his wishs regardless of their personal opnion, because event ho it is great to have your parents support, it is not neccassary for a man. For a woman, we need a wali, a witness.
Tell your fiancee to stand up and be adamant, I know a couple who went thur the same thing, the MIL refused to come to the wedding, so the son told them thats fine and he didnt need them, they eventually did come to the wedding, but they didnt have a big valima etc, the guys mom wanted her son to marry some cousin in pakistan, but he completely refused etc. Now their Happily Married Mashallah! So screw the MIL, tell your fiancee to sit and explain the situation and that their gonna loose thier son if they dont straighten up, and its wrong of them etc if they dont listen and start screaming and emotional blackmail, then he should or if he wants too just walk out on them for a few days and theyll be fine. Inshallah.