cheating, God forbid, is the ultimate loss of rust in one’s spouse.
women and men, quite often assume false positives due to spouses being away at night time.
there is aplenty that goes around during broad day light - the stealth of trust among couples?
when your spouses does not pick up his /her ph or answers back soon within an hour during the day time?
no one can blame the night any longer.
how can Muslim couples prevent this bane of existence and murder of interpersonal regard?
Dushwari
note: when write in this thread, please keep in mind, that this a family oriented and serious thread with a focus on personal alertnes and ethics of trust regarding over all and intimate relationship among spouses.
what if he's the kind of person that isn't very open about where he goes and what he does. More of a loner type who likes to do things by himself.
When he is questioned about where he was, he would be defensive. That would be a very strange and sticky situation.
Been there done that....for as being a desi pakistani thug living in canada...give him space ..so much space that he will miss you and will leave all that other sh*T that he does at night times with his homeboys and be with you forever for every single night for rest of his life...
and doing that could also drive him away (more than what he/she might already be). You have to use wisdom and let him/her know their shortcomings whenever you get the chance :)
I am gonna reply to this thread in detail later on.
and doing that could also drive him away (more than what he/she might already be). You have to use wisdom and let him/her know their shortcomings whenever you get the chance :)
I am gonna reply to this thread in detail later on.
ok i was jooking :P umm honestly the best thing is to communicate...it really works!
cheating, God forbid, is the ultimate loss of rust in one's spouse.
women and men, quite often assume false positives due to spouses being away at night time.
there is aplenty that goes around during broad day light - the stealth of trust among couples?
when your spouses does not pick up his /her ph or answers back soon within an hour during the day time?
no one can blame the night any longer.
how can Muslim couples prevent this bane of existence and murder of interpersonal regard?
Dushwari
note: when write in this thread, please keep in mind, that this a family oriented and serious thread with a focus on personal alertnes and ethics of trust regarding over all and intimate relationship among spouses.
Main thing is that husband and wife's relation is built on trust if they argue on these cheap things it means they are not going well together.
I think when the majority of desi spouses(wife and/or husband) are software engineers, the countless hours of late night work at the office is something one has to get used to
good points everyone.
communication indeed is necesary. so is trust but then it is so wantonly broken, that being on guard is not a wrong thing to do, without sounding possessive or acting as if one does not care.
in fact you can care enough, and that will be the test of the spouse, whether s/he acknowledges and respects that care of not.
ok then maybe just Indians in the west and I wish all weren’t. You tell me that ain’t true. Every single Indian guppy here on GS is one. There are other successful professions in this world you know. And well that particular profession takes a lot out of a person and is very stressful right?
^ I don’t think indians mind since all deen iman is paisa in india. I’m not saying others don’t do it but indians really out do it! My brother knew one indian guy who lived here while his wife was in california, because she could find the best paying job there…
^well in terms of your brother’s Indian friend’s situation, in the states it is necessary nowadays to have two good jobs in order to live comfortably so i can kind of understand the wife going to those lengths for that job.
btw, if you keep doing this:eek: your face will get stuck that way you know
IT employees are not a bane of existence, simply because they can deal with huge losses of data due to misplaced or not placed minute colons and commas.
they have their livelihood’s worth of hard ships as well - straining their eyes, learning all kinds of computer sci languages, that have no meaning what so ever beyond symbols and some alphabetical word commands.
their applets, servelets, servers, together with IT audits and networking topologies, IP protocols, callee and caller Voips, and working with lan and PC anywhere, anti virus, and other softwares, they are one hard working lot of women and men. i am talking about those who are hard working and did go to school for it like a 4 yrs coll.
and actually wrote a thesis on the information technology and communications field.
as for a profession being limited to the over rated ness of coming home late, that is not necessarily true.
doctors come home late, so do professors at universities, due to clinics, labs, classes, research and conferences, but that does not mean that they cannot be good spouses.
the trend becomes obvious when in any profession, the night or day is not a matter for the waiting spouse.
to a cheated spouse night or day of cheating spouse, is the same... unforgivable.
