Newly Married Advice Please

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Re: Newly Married Advice Please

@Doi69

Thanks everyone for your response.

Sorry for a late reply.

Let me clear some confusion. I am in Pakistan, and we do have maids.

Secondly, i never said they are devars my husband is the youngest. If he was older he would’ve straightened them out probably lol.

About the living situation. There is no combined kitchen. They have their own kitchen and we have our own. There is no sharing of tasks, poor mother in law used to handle all the stuff before i came. The Jaithanis pretty much live on their own and don’t help out. A lot of time their kids come downstairs and create a mess and leave , the jethanis never gave a damn about the MIL let alone me.

Sasha pretty much mentioned all the details, i am weirded out by how accurate most of that is!!!

So, i talked to my husband. He understands the situation and acknowledged my issue. But then he shared what he is going through and it has made me even more tensed. Thing is, if we leave the place, the parents would be left to those two and their wives. Now hubby and myself are there to help around the parents, get them medicines,take to the doctor, help out when guests come etc.But if we leave, they will be left alone. Now its a precarious situation.

I don’t know how to respond to this. A part of me peeved off at why do i have to bear all this, but then also i feel guilty for stressing my husband even more when he is in such a dilemma.

You sound like a sweet and genuinely caring person. It’s nice that you empathize with your husband and inlaws situation. I would suggest that you find a way to expand your personal space while still keeping your inlaws in mind. Is it possible to build on to our portion downstairs, like add a wing to the side of the house? Or why don’t you and your husband explore the possibility of finding a larger place to accommodate both you and his parents? Leave the jaits and jaitanis out of the equation.