Re: New generation's marriage issues
Why do people assume that marrying someone from pak means that they will be poor, illiterate, or just out to get a greencard?
Those of us who are born and raised in the west hate being stereotyped ourselves :p
My husband is from 'back home' and it was the best decision ever made. He didn't need to come to england, we had a very comfortable lifestyle in pak but ultimately I wanted to carry on with my career and couldn't so do in pak as I don't speak urdu. My husband was in no rush to leave his family and lifestyle and re establish himself again but still did so for me. Immigration wasn't the nightmare it's perceived to be. If you have your paperwork in order and the marriage is genuine then it can take a matter of weeks. My husband is literate, was already fluent in english, knew how to drive, domesticated and a great provider for me. Granted, it was a bit of a struggle financially in the first couple of months when he arrived but that was because of poor planning on my part - I hadn't expected him to get his visa through so soon and therefore hadn't started sorting out living arrangements etc but it wasn't that big a deal. Besides which, even if I had married someone from over here, the same issues would've probably been there - who doesn't struggle a little in the beginning financially after all? Three years on, we have a comfortable lifestyle. We both drive new cars, go on regular holidays, have a nice home. And while material possessions and wealth is not everything, it does seem to be one of the biggest reasons for reluctance to accept rishtas from pakistan.