Okay, so i know this guy for about 15 years. Nice gentlman, accountant with good job, married, 3 kids, a daughter and 2 sons. Well respected in community. When his kids are grown up, he gets “involved” with a married woman!
Starts spending his money on this woman and investing in business of her husband.
His reputation is ruined, family is fissured, yet the guy goes on and on.
One would think that by 45-50 years of age one has matured enough not to fall in this mess but, it looks one is never too old to screw one’s life.
Okay, so i know this guy for about 15 years. Nice gentlman, accountant with good job, married, 3 kids, a daughter and 2 sons. Well respected in community. When his kids are grown up, he gets "involved" with a married woman!
Starts spending his money on this woman and investing in business of her husband.
His reputation is ruined, family is fissured, yet the guy goes on and on.
One would think that by 45-50 years of age one has matured enough not to fall in this mess but, it looks one is never too old to screw one's life.
Not to be taking sides but who knows the real story ? Maybe the life at home was living hell for him and he needed a refuge which this woman provided to him.
I do not know but trying to understand the life. I get confused myself about so many things which never make senase for me. One day I will post the list of things which do not make sense to me.
Yaar, i know the guy for 15 years. Know all about his family. He had a perfect marriage. And funny thing is that this new woman and her husband are robbing him of his money too.
Yaar, i know the guy for 15 years. Know all about his family. He had a perfect marriage. And funny thing is that this new woman and her husband are robbing him of his money too.
Wow , I will include this one in my list of things which do not make sense to me.
May be too much monotonous in life and wants a change. Some time people do totally stupid things, just for the sake of it. He needs some thing to spice up his life ... Mirch any tips for the poor guy :)
I knew of something similar, not exactly the same but similar. An uncle jee was married for about 30-35 years. Anyways he & his wife moved back to the motherland and left the kids here in the US. She passed away from a heart attack, and I think it hadn't even been 1-2 weeks, there were already talks of getting him married...and apparently it turns out he had a thing going with some neighborhood lady. And what's funnier is she was still married & on the brinks of divorce...so he was hopeful that she'd get divorced and then he can marry her. She finally decided to stay with her hubby, who I feel bad for....ewwww.
Another thought that came to me, is ho wis this too different from men who marry 2nd wife....isn't this how it starts....they get a liking for another lady...fall for her, then marry 2nd wife and make life miserable for 1st wife and kids??
Afro, yeah, usually that's how this 2nd wife thing starts, but at the end of the day, it is allowed for them to marry 4! So no arguments there. These are facts of life and I believe that if we pray to be protected from temptations, Allah will protect us. Namaaz, reading Quran and good association keeps our hearts and mind clean and pure. And while tempations are thrown our way on a daily basis, we become mature enough to identify what is right and what isn't.
Niksik, I know marrying 4 times is allowed in Islam, but under very strict circumstances/rules no? And even then I don't think the man is allowed to do all this stuff leading up to finding his 2nd wife...that's cheating until your actually married to the 2nd lady...but that's a different discussion. I always wondered that fine they can marry 4....but hat's the process....does someone find a rishta for them....cuz isnt having an affair zina? she isnt legal to him until nikkah.
In a perfect society, a lot of things that just seem weird would not happen. Lots of logic, lots of answers, and lots of questions. The more you ask, the more you get confused.
May be too much monotonous in life and wants a change. Some time people do totally stupid things, just for the sake of it. He needs some thing to spice up his life ... Mirch any tips for the poor guy :)
I have more experience with spicing up the foods, but as for spicing up the marriage I am dumb as a mirch. I have been married to my wife for over a decade and have three kids , but I never felt any kind of dull moment in our family life. But again I am a simple man so is my wife. We are raising the kids the same way. Alhumdulillah we are contented with whatever Allah has bestowed on us , we can never thank him enough.
I have more experience with spicing up the foods, but as for spicing up the marriage I am dumb as a mirch. I have been married to my wife for over a decade and have three kids , but I never felt any kind of dull moment in our family life. But again I am a simple man so is my wife. We are raising the kids the same way. Alhumdulillah we are contented with whatever Allah has bestowed on us , we can never thank him enough.
It always pays to remain simple. :) It's easy on the mind and spirit and helps us stay on track.
I agree simplicity is best solution for every problem. If we think for a second every problem has very simple solution, but usually we complicate it with our own stupidity.
Going for 2nd wife i think is usually cauz he is not getting what he wants from 1st one. So simple solution is to walk up to her and tell her what he wants. Girls have very accommodating nature i guess, if men open up and tell them. Am i right here ? :)
well if he is willing to waste his money then let him be. besides, ur knowing the person and family for 15years does not mean that u also know about their private life and how were things between the couple.
