Hey sweet heart…..
Why are you losing hope…. Come on you should think positive…. I don’t suggest you to jump to a decision of divorce cuz I know its really difficult for you right now. That is the reason I suggested you to go away on vacation…..
You need a break. If you can afford just take your sibling or friend with you and go out of city. Its gona relax you and you can analyze your situation better when you are out of this whole situation and away from him.
Why do you think that after divorce you wont find any one better then him?
Let me tell you about this person who is closely related to me. Hope after reading this you start to think positively abt ur future...
well i know this person who was engaged to her cousin (taya's son) for a long time, the guy was in england. After the gal's dad passed away, mom wanted to do her shadi.....and someone told the family that they guy is involved with some girl in england so dont do her shadi with the cousin....after that the girl's family noticed that the guy doesnt luk so happy with the rista
so when girl's mom got other proposals for the girl and she was actually considering some of them for her daughter when one day guy's dad (taaya) came and said that if she broke the ristah and married her daughter to some other guy he is gona kill everyone on barat day and will never let her do her shadi.
mom was too scared cuz she had no one who could support her in the family.....her husband already passed away and left her with young daughters and sons.... so she didnt break her daughter's engagment and married her to the cousin....
this girl moved to uk, that was when she realized what exactly happened to her. Her husband would not come home for days and when he would, he would tell her that he feel suffocated when he is near her. He doesn’t understand what happens to him whenever he come close to her.... this girl would leave the house and walk on the snow, crying. She had no one who she can share her pain. Her mom back home (in pakistan) was already worried for her and her other sisters that she never wanted to give her mom more worries but whenever she talked to her, she told her to pray for her.
This girl started working (labour jobs), when one day her husband told her that he is already happily married and his dad (girl's taya) forced him to marry her or else he'll disown him.
Mom was so worried abt her daughter that she went to uk jst to see her if she is happy in her marriage.....but found out all this.
It was really difficult to get a divorce again because of her taya after that she started living with her sister in uk. Whenever she went to her mamo's house in uk for her weekend, she would be the one cleaning their house, cooking, washing dishes while other would enjoy the weekend.
One of her cousin who is extremly gud luking, decent, religious, got a really gud job with a handsome salary told his parents his pasand. His mom was shocked cuz this girl was divorcee plus he was couple of years younger than the girl. He told them that he has to marry some girl so why not her. beside its so hard for her to marry some nice guy cuz no one is going to accept her after knowing she is divorced and might think all kinds of stories and related to her about her divorce and i dont want her to go through same torture.
he also told his family that he knows her very well and i know what kind of person she is and age and being divorcee doesnt matter to him, out beloved prophet (pbuh) also married older women.
Her cousin had a very hard time getting married to her but he got married to this girl cousin. He bought a very nice huge house couple of blocks away from his parent's house and moved out cuz he knew his mom (who is momani of the girl) is not accepting her. He is a very good son and very gud husband. Though her inlaws did give her hard time....time to time but isnt that what all girls go through.
Now this girl has three very beautiful kids, a very loving n caring husband. Even though her husband has a very very tuff routine. He works in this very big company and due to his job he is extremly busy but whenever his wife's family come over to see her, he manages time for them. Every year her husband takes her to different countries for vacation so they can spend time together as he rarely gets time throughout the year for the wife and kids. He still loves her the most, he is so senseable and caring. Seriously we all admire her life…… yeh she had been through a lot but now alhumdolilah she is enjoy her married life.