Need ur advice and prayers during this hard ttime...

[SweetLady]

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@msasamz

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[Xtron]

Re: Need ur advice and prayers during this hard ttime...

^ Ya that might ya're ex bro in law..

[Mirch]

Re: Need ur advice and prayers during this hard ttime…

@SweetLady

Thanks everyone for the replies!

Sorry for the grammar and roman errors, it was a bit emotional for me to write it all down.

As for the 49 suits, furnished house etc, thats somethin my parents have given to all of us Ma Shaa Allah. The sofa set, bedroom set and household equipments were more likely to have the mouth shut of the inlaws.

As for ghe Visa it was dicsussed clearly that the boy side would pay the expenses. They agreed back than.

Boy and his fam eventually said that they are not willing to pay the visa back, even though the boy said it in the beginning. Suddenly he has changed. About the wealth of the fam, they have a lot of daulat jaydad,zameen and all that (we know that cuz the fams have a blood relation in the far past) and mom and dad had given the rishta after proper check up.

My sister is vrying cuz she feels like she is used. She agreed to marry in pk cuz she left all the decissions to my parents ( my brothers married with a girl in pk and ma shaa allah my sils are amazing). She is not only afraid of the talaal dhabba, but also for what the future might bring.

I opened the thread cuz we r still in a dubio. Cuz this issue is only discussed with the boy and his mom dad. The sisters of the boy are putting weird quotes about perfection and allah knows what on facebook, but my sis is ignoring it. Mom and dad want to discuss is with the elders of the boys father, but he is afraid that that van make things worse…(what do you guys think?)

It is not about the money or wealth from our side. My brothers, husband and Bil from other sister have offered to pay the visa. The thibg is that everyone is scared for the issues that will going to rise after the wedding, when boy gets in to uk.

Another detail: my sister is married according to uk law ( she handed in her nikah nama after the nikah, does anyone know how the talaak procedure will work here?.

We are trying to get things solved this weekend, cuz the flights to pk (of mom dad n my sil) r booked for the end of this week.

your parents are so rich that they spent somewhere from 50 thousand ponds to 200 thousand pounds or more for their girls Jahaiz which includes a house in Europe but they cannot afford to pay 1000 ponds for visa and that bafoon of a boy and his moron family know about all this girl is bringing with her and they are letting it all go for 1000 pound . It is all very hard for me to swallow . Kahani main bohat jhool hain magar sub nay maan lee toh hum bhee maan laytay hain. My advice is to ask your parents to do their homework thoroughly before agreeing to get their daughters married and make sure they accept rishta from those who are equal in material status to theirs. This nikah is doomed I pray for your sister ,you and Ur parents.

[SweetLady]

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@Xtron

^ Ya that might ya’re ex bro in law..

Was thinking the same just one post and new joining date… It might someone else ofbhis family aswell… But okay

@Mirch

your parents are so rich that they spent somewhere from 50 thousand ponds to 200 thousand pounds or more for their girls Jahaiz which includes a house in Europe but they cannot afford to pay 1000 ponds for visa and that bafoon of a boy and his moron family know about all this girl is bringing with her and they are letting it all go for 1000 pound . It is all very hard for me to swallow . Kahani main bohat jhool hain magar sub nay maan lee toh hum bhee maan laytay hain. My advice is to ask your parents to do their homework thoroughly before agreeing to get their daughters married and make sure they accept rishta from those who are equal in material status to theirs. This nikah is doomed I pray for your sister ,you and Ur parents.

It is not about the money Mirch…ma shaa allah my parents have worked really hard to achieve the financial status that they have now. It was giving in to alll the demands of the boys side…the demands started from furniture to my sisters house including visa and all…eik had hoti hey yaar

Raha sawaal baat maan lene ka, if the guy was on my sisters side and would choose for my sister, trust me we would pay thw visa money, but the only thing he said was: things will go through my dad, “i don’t wanna talk about it” and ignored my sister for ages…if u read the posts u might know that he started taunting with fb statusses and whatsapp.

Research…well fam key ander ja ker hi pata chalta hey key log kesey heyn… U dont get always what u see.. But than again, we just want my sis to gwt out of this situation, she needs her rest and than we will look further…in my opinions boys from uk are much better than imports from pk, and my parents agree om it to. In shaa allah my sis wil be out of this sucky situation soon.

Woh kehtey heyn na, saamp (snake) jab marney per ata hey samney samney a ker bethta hey… That goes for the boy and his fam…they thought they won a jackpot…guess again

[payal_sharma]

Re: Need ur advice and prayers during this hard ttime...

what if they do this .... what if they do that....OMG !!!!!

It's like : what if I get hit by a car today, it might just be better to stay at home.

Stop letting fear ruin your sister's life.

[SweetLady]

Re: Need ur advice and prayers during this hard ttime...

what if they do this .... what if they do that....OMG !!!!!

It's like : what if I get hit by a car today, it might just be better to stay at home.

Stop letting fear ruin your sister's life.

The what if's ain't applicable nymore, there were some stages where the what if's weighted a lot.. But thanks to u guppies and the lawyer the steps are taken :)...

In shaa Allah my sis will b free soon (Ameen!!)