One of my best friend is having an extra marital affair, Whenever i try to stop him, we will have a big fight, he even throwed a laptop at me, he is a muslim and when i argue with him, he says he is allowed to have 4 wives,
when i warn him if he continues doing it, i will stop being his friend, then he feel sad, and try convince me by saying sorry continuously, his family is in india, they are constructing a house in india, and his wife not willing to come to usa,
i’m more worried as he is my best friend, i don’t know how to stop him.
Firstly, your friend needs to know that Islam does not permit fraud! yes it permits four wives but not extra marital affairs. So he needs to come clean to his wife about his intention to marry someone ! but honestly speaking your friend is using religion to justify his horrible act!
Secondly, TLK did rightly point out that it may be his wife's shortcoming for refusing to join her husband. But that is still not an excuse good enough for him to have an affair. If he thinks he is a victim and justified in doing what he is doing, ask him to come clean infront of his family and specifically his wife.
Thirdly, you cant stop him. When a man decides to fall low, nothing makes sense to them until they get kicked by Karma! What you can do however is either distance yourself slightly from him, like discourage him from talking about his affair infront of you / with you ... so that he realizes that he is guilty.
or you continue to let him know subtly that he is not doing the right thing. As a friend , your role is to make him aware that he is not doing the right thing, but if he carries on doing it, then its his fate and life he is ruining , you cannot do anything about it.
Only lowly, weak men with no class go behind their wives back and sneak around like vermin. The woman / man he is having the affair with are they aware he is married?
Disgusting behavior, divorce his wife and he can pick up as many std's as he wants. His wife could be infected!!!
Don't be cowardly and put up
with this, man up let the wife know, she doesn't deserve to be treated in this abhorable manner. You are involved now don't be a bystander and cower in the corner.
If I ever knew one of my friends was having an affair, I'd cut them off straight.
Yeah, I wouldn't keep quiet if there's a risk of stds.. Either his wife or parents need to know.. By keeping quiet he is just able to carry on as normal..
Didn't the wife in India know before she married him that she'd be moving to the US? Is the girl the guy is having an affair with a gf he knew before marriage and if so why didn't he just marry her instead?
Yeah, he's allowed more than one wife but he's not allowed to LIE to either of them..
Secondly, if one of my friends hurled a laptop at me or did anything else that put me in physical danger as a result of losing their temper....that friendship would be over. What the argument was about isn't the point. The fact that he lost his temper and resorted to doing something physical against you should be your main concern.
but why is his wife not willing to come to the states? in that case, if he is that unhappy in his current marriage because his wife is not with him, why not end that relationship FIRST before he thinks about taking on another one. definitely having affairs isnt very islamic either, how will that help him?
your comment is distasteful .
