We all know that be it women or men, we need some space and do things which we like to do after we are married.
This thread is exclusively dedicated to my fellow men.
Some women think that relationship means obsessively being with their husbands and doesn’t give them the space he needs after marriage. I can see few examples around me, and these friends do complaint that their wives wouldn’t let them or allow them to go for some sort of adventure trip with their friends. Adventure trip means, backpacking to Europe, go for adventurous out-door trip for couple days or more.
Have you or will you talked to your future spouse about this?
Dude take it easy.
Its women's nature, if you find a chick who don't do that. Trust me she is pretending.
And no need to be scared look at some happily marriage couple closely, thats how they are.
You get used to it. Ane aventually you do what you got to do.. and they yell... thats about it.
Excuse me, nothing to do with insecure women, how dare someone assume that. I would happily let him go for few days, but hey, the favour must be returned.
I am happily married and don't let my hubby go on any adventures after he got married to me.. does that make me insecure? actually quiet the opposite..
One can do all of this with his wife, provided he marries a like minded person who shares similar interests. This is why arranged marital setups are an epic bore!! It’s more of a forced cohesion.
If you love adventures, marry an adventurous girl and be the next Indiana Jones and Marion.. If you love attending rock concerts like me, don’t just give that up, marry someone who’d love to go with you every time, just don’t get wasted!
I know my SO for sure has a higher need for space. He asks for a week or two off and I let him have it.
Honestly speaking, in the beginning the idea was foreign to me. Not because I am/was insecure but because I never thought that could be a part of a relationship. It makes perfect sense when you think about it. But having parents who spent most of their married life away from each other, I never came across the existence of that need. And it wasn't ever explicitly spelled out, in front of us kids.
I have gotten used to it and I appreciate our "breaks". It gives me a chance to reconnect with myself. And we have plenty to talk about afterwards. It keeps things interesting.
Spock, you'd get SICK and TIRED if you lived with the same person and went EVERYWHERE with them too. Everyone needs time with other people. The relationship would get uber boring if you spent ALLL of your time with one person.
Plus, I love my alone time with my friends, wouldn't want him there all the time.
Being insecure could be a cause. So you are right..
FULLY Agreed. I will be more than happy to take care of kids insha’allah or get a nanny to take care of my kids because of the nature of my work doesn’t allow me to stay in the house most of the time.
I knew it Lama!
Well i am not saying she or both of us can’t show a bit of affection this way. What i am saying is, too much clinging is no good. I would even let my wife go for vacation with her friends.
Yes, if the favour is returned! i agree with that…
And what so quiet opposite…are we talking about here?
O yes! I value that quality a lot. I think, the girl must be like-minded personality more like out-going girl in my case. Wish you best of luck in finding like-minded girl as well.
I know my SO for sure has a higher need for space. He asks for a week or two off and I let him have it.
Honestly speaking, in the beginning the idea was foreign to me. Not because I am/was insecure but because I never thought that could be a part of a relationship. It makes perfect sense when you think about it. But having parents who spent most of their married life away from each other, I never came across the existence of that need. And it wasn't ever explicitly spelled out, in front of us kids.
I have gotten used to it and I appreciate our "breaks". It gives me a chance to reconnect with myself. And we have plenty to talk about afterwards. It keeps things interesting.
Spock, you'd get SICK and TIRED if you lived with the same person and went EVERYWHERE with them too. Everyone needs time with other people. The relationship would get uber boring if you spent ALLL of your time with one person.
Plus, I love my alone time with my friends, wouldn't want him there all the time.
And here is the woman that speaks the truth. You see this is one of the aspect that actually does bother me about relationships. It is very disappointing to see that in our culture this is not encouraged.
Well I have made certain my job does not allow me to take my wife everywhere. So when I get my feel for adventure again I would just get a field job for a year. Wifey can't come :D Yay!
But it is only a major issue with women who do not have their own independent life. The guys just yesterday were saying its nice to have the house of just guys for the past 3 or 4 days. We have been watching frat movies, drinking and discussing women and cars. Its a nice chilling experience.
You need that every few months to unwind and just be a guy.
This is also one of my own concerns about marriage if (khuda na khasta) I ever get married.
What if my wife wants to cling to me all the time wherever I go?
just run the usual course of pakistani husbands post marriage behaviour when in conflict and or frustration due to out of control wife..slap her in the face n yell at her to 'get a grip!'
