That is my husbands home and the one he will think of as home no matter where in the world he goes, and where my husband is that is home for me too, even if the husband has has no issues when you go , he definitely will have when his mother complains to her son that his wife went direct to her parents.
Ps it matters as well on who comes to the airport. The expectation should be that in laws pick you up, so automatically you go there. When both inalws and parents come then you need to give in laws precedence unless family emergencies or ill health on the parents side
That is my husbands home and the one he will think of as home no matter where in the world he goes, and where my husband is that is home for me too, even if the husband has has no issues when you go , he definitely will have when his mother complains to her son that his wife went direct to her parents.
Ps it matters as well on who comes to the airport. The expectation should be that in laws pick you up, so automatically you go there. When both inalws and parents come then you need to give in laws precedence unless family emergencies or ill health on the parents side
i totally agree wth u i remember last decemeber i went to pak both my grandmothers(nanai n dadi) passed away wth 1 day gap my parents were not able to come to pick me so my inlaws came they picked me n dropped me at my parents home it was 2 at night but situation was different
since u r married now whatever u visiting first time after marriage n huby not accompaning u still ur inlaws home is now ur home u should consider this n should go there
n seriously even i ask my parents regarding this they vl also suggest me to go to in laws first
If I'm going alone, I go to my parents' place, but visit my in-laws often. I'm lucky that way because both my MIL and FIL work, and there is nobody in their house the whole day. My parents are both retired, so it makes sense for me to live with them. I prioritize spending time with in-laws on weekends and holidays when they are home.
Don't take our words. Every family dynamics are different. Your best go-to person is your husband. Discuss it with him.
Only advise that I can give you is that don't make it a issue. If you husband (or in-laws) expect you to touch base with them and then move to your mom's place, just do it for the sake of it if you want your trip to be remembered for good and not bad. You are going there to have fun and not to take part in saas-bahoo SOAP
I can tell you how it works in our family. My wife normally goes to my home in Karachi. Everyone is invited that night at home including my in-laws (and my wife's chacha khala etc) , my own uncles aunts and what not. So its a night of fun for everyone. In a day or two after getting the things straight (my brother helps bhabi in getting local cell, changing money etc), she moves to her mom's place with all the necessary baggage dumping the extra stuff in our house.
On couple of trips she went directly to her house because trip was just a week long (on weddings) and no body including myself, my parents had any problem with that either.
PS:
Hint: with all the love b/w my wife and her parents, I still love it when she call my home "her home"
Because you’re married and this IS your first time going to Pak after shaadi…its a good idea to see them first. I know its not comfortable and you want your space but at the same time…it might cause problems if you don’t.
If I was you…judging from your last thread…I’d go to my in-laws.