Thank you all for your good advice!
No I'm not immature..When someone feels unhappy or depressed...then the person can say and do stupid things....My mother gave me very good feeling when she told me that they will do this and that to him if he will behave bad to me! My main thing is: I don't want to hurt my parents and family!! But my dear parents and family think only about their izzat etc. That's more important then my happiness....So if they don't care for me...why should expect from HIM that he'll care for me? So no expectations...No heartbreaking...
Look, you are a grown adult woman. Not a bachi. If your OWN parents can't fulfill their responsibility of caring properly for you......then YOU need to take care of yourself. It is stupid to think that if no one cares for me, then I also won't care about myself. Koi doosra tumarhi qadar karay ya na karay......tumhay apni kadar karni chahiye. Zulm karna bhi gunnah hai. Aur zulm sehna bhi gunnah hai (jo k tum kar rahi ho). Islam has given a woman the right to get a divorce. That is your basic right as a Muslim woman....not even your parents can stop you from this (and they are the one that got you in this mess in the first place). Aqal se kaam lo.......aur is banday se peecha churaao apna. Don't give this loser the chance to come to the US. Wake up, woman!
I still don't want to live with that man...I really hate him... But everyone is trying to pressurize me...pfff.... Yes, I don't have my own life....I have to follow that path that everyone has made for me!
It's so EASY for your parents to pressurize you............and that is because they will never understand what it is like to be in your situation. Un ki ghaltiyon ki SAZA TUM bhugat rahi ho......not them. You know your situation better than anybody. So, you need to do what you KNOW is right for YOU. If your parents KNEW what is best and right for you..........they would NEVER have pressured you to marry this paindu. Kabhi kabar parents ko apnay bachon ki bilkul bhi samajh nahi hoti......aur woh bachon k haq main faisla nahin letay. Lekin tum to aqal mand ho....koi bachi to nahin ho. Parents se aik ghalati hui.........ab tum chahti ho k woh aik aur bari ghalti karain. Grab control of your life, girl. Be a positive example for those women who are in the SAME abusive situation like you.
Yes I'm pathetic...Yes I'm ambitious...Yes I'm will do everything that makes me happy...yes I'm going to ignore him when he'll be here....
** You're going to ignore him by letting him live in your house? Does that make sense to you? Ambitious has nothing to do with ignoring someone. Your husband is using you for a green card, in my opinion. He doesn't respect you.....he is only interested in settling in Amreeka. So, if I were you.......I'd put his dreams to an end.**
No i'll never let him blackmail me....I know better then him what kind of relationship I had with my buddy.... I was alone...I'm alone...I will be alone!! Simple thinking will help me out of this!
*How do you know how he will behave when he comes to the US? Why are you helping him come to the US. What has he done to earn this favor from you? You can let him stay in Paksitan AND continue living an independent life in US. * When he'll be here I will tell you guys about my life!
*Don't help him come here. Do we really need to hear more stories about his nasty behavior? Do you enjoy putting yourself through hell. Don't let him come here. * I will pray to Allah..
Prayer requires action as well.
I was always a person who loved to laugh and to be happy... AND I will be become the same like I was before marriage! It's my little world....
You can become happy again once you've separated from him and he is living in Pak where he can find a girl with his own same mentality.
I'm feeling much better now....When I started this thread I was getting mad!! But now I feel relaxed....Coz who isn't mine...why should I be his?
Thank you all!!
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