Need some advice please!

[McPendo]

Re: Need some advice please!

@redvelvet

OP, to answer your question it will take your boyfriend exactamously 225 days, 17 hours, 29 minutes and 41 seconds to achieve the level of financial stability that you desire…although what’s a good level for Pakistan may not be a good enough level for where you live. He says he’ll “change” after marriage? Why has he set marriage as the condition for change? As in …“no shadi then no change.” What if he was a smoker or a drinker or a gambler or a fornicator…would he still say, “Oh I’ll quit my detrimental habit after I get married. I choose ONLY to see the light after marriage and prior that I’ll just keep my eyes closed thankyouverymuch.” Having a job…a halal job…a good job…will make things easier for his parents and siblings. Or does the security and well-being of his immediate family matter LESS than that of yours OP? Surely his parents worry about his lack of progress and a job…or I’m guessing they do…and is that not a red flag for him to feel more motivated for his long-distance girlfriend than his own family? Shouldn’t it be the other way around…where when you see that a guy does RIGHT by his family and supports them, then you’ll have faith that he will also have the ehsaas for his responsibilities as a husband in the future?

Ask yourself…do you TRULY TRULY respect him or do you just like how he makes you feel about yourself? Or do you feel some amount of contempt for him?

So many dots RV… :D, She has already made a decision. I think she should stick with it. For better or for worse she shouldn’t contact him. He needs a little push to get up and become a billionaire at least at the very least. I kid But in all seriousness when there is a doubt then it’s like a splinter, not matter how much you try you can never really take it out. She’s better off marrying someone who’s financially stable and then falling in love with him. It’s a tried and tested method. Aunty approved. Should work fine.