What sort of person feels 'humiliated' taking their wife/husband to a doctor or therapist??? Sending her 'back home' to get sorted out is the coward's way out and I'd seriously question whether he loves her cos if he did he would have wanted to help sort the problem out where he lives. A normal husband/wife would encourage their spouse to seek help and hold their hand along the way, not feel 'humiliated' or embarassed by it.
Easier said than done!
What sort of person feels 'humiliated' taking their wife/husband to a doctor or therapist??? Sending her 'back home' to get sorted out is the coward's way out and I'd seriously question whether he loves her cos if he did he would have wanted to help sort the problem out where he lives. A normal husband/wife would encourage their spouse to seek help and hold their hand along the way, not feel 'humiliated' or embarassed by it.
Deeba madam, in case you did not catch that she said that they have been married for 5 yrs and they have had issues most of that time and he is continuing with it just cuz of his son and secondly there were issues when his parents came over and they had to live in a hotel instead of their sons house. obviously we dont know the girl`s side or reasoning but if the couple is not happy you really think the spouse would be supportive enough.
^ I thought she had said just a couple of yrs but then she said 5yrs later on as well when I re-read. Really, if someone is threatening to cut themselves with glass they need to see a psychiatrist asap, not leave it cos they feel 'humiliated' and then shipped back home when they've finally had enough (it may not have even gotten to that stage where he/she couldn't cope if she'd seen a doctor when she was supposed to have). My Dad's a psychiatrist and I hear far far worse stories than this, if it weren't for our ridiculous ideas about 'honour', 'humiliation' and 'what will people say' so many of these situations could be dealt with properly. Can u imagine if he'd broken his leg and she'd said, ''Oh I'd rather not take u to a doctor cos it's humiliating'' :( Mental illness is every bit as serious as physical illness (often even moreso) and it makes me angry when ppl can see that someone is unwell but choose to just 'get by' cos they're embarassed or whatever and then dump the problem (in this case) the wife on someone else to deal with. Do u seriously believe her parents in Pakistan are going to give her treatment that can compete with that in the US or just 'hush it up' incase anyone finds out?? No-one should have to live with domestic violence, husband or wife, she should have been sectioned (dunno what the procedure is in the US for ppl who are in danger of harming themselves/those around them) or at the very least taken to a therapist to attempt to worth thru her issues (with husband there). No-one with an ounce of decency would simply send a mentally ill/unstable woman back to Pakistan to be dealt with in God knows what way. I wouldn't have a problem with him divorcing her, but to not send her to a doctor immediately and wait around whilst she gets worse and her head gets more and more messed up all cos of 'humiliation' is v.low imo.