FP,
I agree that people can be tactless. But my personal opinion has always been that you can only tolerate it quietly up to a certain point.....and then you should consider bring up the issue with the offender.....................because that can get him to reflect over his behavior and hopefully make him think twice before behaving so tactlessly with another person in the future.
*****Think of it as YOU trying to break what might become a cycle of offensive behavior. And Islamically....it's recommended that when you see something wrong happening, you do something about it.
You don't have to have an UGLY attitude with him. Just bring up the points in a casual relaxed manner **as I suggested in my previous post. In a way I feel that it's a way of earning **sawab. How?
1) You're seeking clarification in a respectful, calm, and non-humiliating manner. ** 2) ** You're communicating with the person.....and that will help to get some of the bitterness/poison/grudge out of your system. It's not healthy to have a grudge toward your fellow muslim bro.
*3) * By communicating his mistakes to him in a casual manner......you are encouraging him to reflect over his mistakes and this can help him become a better person/Muslim in the future.
So, think about it. He must care about you on some level, or he wouldn't even have bothered inviting you. Trust me, relatives can sometimes not invite their own family members. So.......gently talk to him. For all you know, he might be feeling guilty. And talking things out is therapeutic because it can help alleviate the guilt and make us better people. Give it some consideration and best wishes :)
I am way too cynical.