Redvelvet’s advice was sound but you know this ego of mine simple does not allow me to take the first step. Here is the difference: When my sisters were about to marry, instead of calling, let alone direct or indirect, I drove to every person’s house to personally deliver mithai and card, at least to those who lived in NY/NJ/CT area. I am sorry but if he can’t face me like a man then the biryani served in his wedding is not worth my consumption.