Need quick advice

fallenpieta · April 25, 2009, 6:16pm

Liking someone who then goes on to getting married to someone else is no biggie. This happens a lot in life. Its not as if you were dating or thinking of marrying so though I understand that you may have had some feelings for him, its not enough to warrant to not want to go to his wedding.

So the question you need to ask yourself is why are you upset?

Is it because he invited you through another person?

Is it because you thought that the two of you had begun to develop an understanding and that perhaps you werent given a chance?

Is it because he didnt attend your sisters wedding?

If its 1) then rest assured that men inviting people through other people is quite common. My hubby did not even go around handing his own wedding cards out. He just gave them to a friend and said “Invite any friends you think should come”

If its 2) So you guys had an understanding and nothing came of it. That happens. I am sure everyone can say they had a crush or a thing for someone but things never went further. And it is also possible that he was being an obedient son just marrying whomever his parents decided for him, even if he liked you. You have not mentioned anything about dating, or hooking up etc..so I am assuming this friendship was not deep or extensive so its not really a case of heartbreak.

If its 3) He didnt attend your sisters wedding and made excuses…two things come to mind. Either he really did have genuine reasons or he liked you and maybe this rista stuff was going on at that time so he felt awkward seeing you again in the midst of all this and the only way to avoid you was to avoid the wedding.

Give the guy a break and give yourself one too. The only definitive way to clear this up is to talk to the guy directly about your concerns etc. And you are waiting for a call??

(Hands up all the women in here whose men have said they will call …but they always forget to??)

If your family is going to the wedding, you should go as it would look odd you not being there. If you are the only one in your family going and you will feel uncomfortable, dont go.

Either way, dont sweat the small stuff and enjoy life, its the only one you have so make the most of it.

what would you lead you to believe that i am a woman??? The facial hair, deep husky voice, and $%$#%$%$#%#% in my pants don’t define a man? hehehehhe

OK you made some very valid point and some which I didn’t agree with:

yes. I don’t appreciate being treated as such. Tell you the truth being treated in such a way hurts my pride and ego.
Well yes we had an understanding but neither of us are gay.
Yes. But its more then not attending my sisters wedding. Its that he made FALSE excuses and I think only few days before the wedding.