i found out today my frend is gettin forced by her dad n aunt to marry this guy bak hme in pak. n shes dead against it n doesnt want to marry the guy. her mum isnt sayn enetin even though she doesnt want this to happen.
im reli scared for her does eneone kno ene helpline tht she cn contact? i told her to call the police but shes too scared to do it.
im reli confused i reli dnt kno wt do …i cnt ask my parents they might say its sum1 family buisness dnt go into it. plz sum1 tel me wt to do…
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Parents should let her speak to him and tell him also that she may not want to mary you.
They must not force a marriage.
Calling police means opening a pandora box.
(Never get police involved unless its life threatening)
How old is she and the person in Pak.
Why she does not want to mary him?
Someone else is better or its him being no good?
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Do that girl like someone else? Has she tried talkin to her mom? Callin police wont be a good idea....
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shes 19 n she does nt kno the guy whos she getn marid 2. she neva bin to pak or met her relatives in pak. shes against marryn sum1 in pak cuz she knows it wont work.
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she has been talkin to her mum but her mum is against it but shes not doin enetin to stop it. her mum is not speakin up
she has been talkin to her mum but her mum is against it but shes not doin enetin to stop it. her mum is not speakin up
Shes only 19? She is reai young.... Has she got a bf here? Her mom needs to speak up to avoid this.. and if she hasnt been to pak, and hasnt seen the guy than i dont think this shaadi will work.... Her mom needs to stop this.... SHe must speak up Afterall she is her daughter!
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^Agree.
Did parent see she was going 'out of control'? Surely not a solution though.
Its not a marriage if against her will.
Does he know 'he' is being married to someone who does not want to?
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why does it sound like a situation i have seen in some hindi flick 
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Tell her to contact a family member who can help with this. An aunt or uncle who has an open mind and can talk to her parents? A family friend? A friend even?
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One number that is needed may be of the boy/man to be married. Call him and tell that.
Who would want to mary her like that!
For citizenship? For saving her from being 'uncontrolled'? For whatever..
no she dnt hav or had a bf. her dad has a flippin typical paki mind of getn his daughter marid off to one of his relis in pak so they cn bring him here. she dnt trust no1 in her fam her aunt is in this aswel.
but enewayz thnx for ur advice. i cld my cuzin n she told me bout a helpline dt she cn call. its cald forced mariage unit
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Sounds like you had mind set on calling help line only.
There are many other routes though.
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She need to talk to guy who she is getting married to if it is really that serious. On the other hand her parents might have really looked into it and that guy is not that bad.
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As I understand, girls are Islaamically allowed to refuse a marriage, it is their right no matter what the reason. If the gal says NO, then NO should be the answer.
Sadly, there are more than a handful of these marry-the-cousin-and bring him over types of marriages, forced upon unwilling gals. Hence the need for such "forced marriage" hotlines.
My prayers are with this gal, I hope she gets some good advice from the hotline and escapes this forced marriage.
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First of all, I don't like friends meddling in other people's lives unnecessarily.
Secondly, if she asked for your help, and specifically asked you for a helpline number, then all I have to say is - if she's brave enough to call help lines and jeopardize her family's reputation, etc. then she should be brave enough to stand up to her parents.
Calling the police, help lines, etc. is a coward's way out.
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First of all, I don't like friends meddling in other people's lives unnecessarily.
Secondly, if she asked for your help, and specifically asked you for a helpline number, then all I have to say is - if she's brave enough to call help lines and jeopardize her family's reputation, etc. then she should be brave enough to stand up to her parents.
Calling the police, help lines, etc. is a coward's way out.
her family hav no reputation cumon they forcin their own daughter to a mariage shes not happi with to a guy she doesnt even kno!...she has stud up to her dad now tel me a dad who listns to their daughter whos forcin her to a mariage!...she has no say . dis is her last option. i kno this girl since nursery n i aint gna let her parents ruin her life with sum idiot in pak jus bcz he wants his whole family ere!
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There was a TV program on this very matter, just 3 days ago. Have her contact the UK Home Office, the laws are strict against this practice, her parents could even see prison time.
some contact no’s & info.
- The Home Office and the Foreign and Commonwealth Office launched the joint Forced Marriage Unit on 26 January 2005. The unit leads on policy, outreach work and projects to raise awareness and provide support to survivors of forced marriage, as well as providing practical support and information to people at risk of being forced into marriage.
- The Forced Marriage Unit can be contacted by phone on 020 7008 0151 or via email at [EMAIL=“[email protected]”][email protected]
- For further information and for ministerial bids please contact:
- FCO Press Officer: Pasquale LaManno, 020 7008 3095; or
- Home Office Press Officer: Jane Garvan, 020 7035 3825
Should anyone be interested in viewing the documentary.
her family hav no reputation cumon they forcin their own daughter to a mariage shes not happi with to a guy she doesnt even kno!...she has stud up to her dad now tel me a dad who listns to their daughter whos forcin her to a mariage!...she has no say . dis is her last option. i kno this girl since nursery n i aint gna let her parents ruin her life with sum idiot in pak jus bcz he wants his whole family ere!
What SU said has some weight.
Fine if they have no reputation but what will it be if anyone just barges in their house and does something she may not even like?
There is something which is not being told here. That is, what does her mother say and by the way parents do have rights too.
A marriage is no marriage if it is forced but can't she just tell this the poor guy instead of running after her friends or whoever?
Someone else can call him. He is a big part in it so he must know. Its not like she will be highjacked by him from her house. She still has chance to save dignity of herself and her family.
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i assumed your friend resides in the UK, if not, lemme know. i should be able to source out the required contact no’s should you let me know you need them.