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I have so much going through my mind and don’t know where to begin… It is time for me to get married. I have been in US since 9th grade, went to high school here, got a bachelors, got an MBA, and have been working for a few years. Even though it is getting to a point where I would have spent majority of my life in US, I am still very connected to and prefer many of the desi culture and traditions. I live with my brother and his wife; talk to my parents almost every day, who will be moving here this year and will be living with us as well.
I have been very focused on career and since I live in a relative small, mostly gora town, I haven’t had much exposure to many desi girls. This is one of the reasons why my parents are looking for girls in Pakistan. I consider myself almost a workaholic (or more of a “computeraholic”). 
, I don’t have any financial issues and 
the future is looking very bright as well. Since I tend to spend a lot of time working, I had requested that my parents look for a doctor. Given the number of doctors in my family and that generally come to US, I know that their career path is already figured out and there is a good chance that she will quickly adjust to the system. Plus, I think that her being so well educated would have a very positive affect on the children.
So, my first question, working or non-working wife? Many folks have said that a non-working wife is critical for raising good children. I can certainly see how that would make a difference, but I get concerned about the amount of time that I would have to spend to keep her busy. Also, how will things change when the kids start going to school (or even college)? I realize that there is a certain amount of commitment, which I am willing to make. I have also read, and experienced that working girls are generally more confident, which might actually help with the children situation as well. Also, there is less chance that a working girl would fit in our existing family structure, which is very important to me.
Everyone says that the character is important, but no one has explained what that really means. This makes things especially challenging when we are expected to tie the knot without, what I think is, enough interaction. Also, the fact that once you tie the knot going back becomes very tough makes this even more stressful. This is especially true if the girl is closely related to your family. So, what can/should I be looking for and how? Is the idea really that the parents and the rest of the family are the indirect channel?
I have debated having my parents look locally here in US, but then the whole family thing gets me worried (partly stereotype, I know :(). Plus, our little exposure to local desi communities makes this very tough.
I am very analytical and I generally try to learn as much I can before making any decision so I would appreciate any and all input that you can provide. Think of me as your chota bhai/pra (kashar ror :), younger brother) 
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