LOL Okay guess I missed alot here.. He is VERY possesive, had it been in moderation I wudn't mind but asking me "where are u now?" "who's there with u" he doesn't like ANY of my male friends, people I work with.. including gay makeup artists! Forget sleeveless he doesn't even like half-sleeves! NO sari's.. staying-out late, heels, dark eye-makeup, dark lipsticks ugh! No concerts.. :S no driving!
I've known my friends for the past 7 years and they respect my fiance a lot and I know for a fact they never meant to insult him at all.. all my friends have always been males and my family has never had any problems with them. And my friend was actually pulling his leg.. it wasn't even serious! I've cut-down everything and everyone's been complaining.. "how come u dont dress the same?", "how come we dont see u there anymore", "how come u dont play whatever sport anymore". Is it right to ask the person u love to give-up whatever they once enjoyed doing..?
Gina when he got engaged to you he knew what he was getting into right? The Gina he chose for marriage was a liberal person. Then what is his problem now? If there were things he wanted to change about you those should have been at least hinted at in the very beginning so you could have gotten into this expecting it. Were you aware of his conservative inclinations at that point? Even if you were aware of it if you don;t feel comfortable living the life he wants u to live I don;t think u should be forced to.
Many are saying how you should go ahead and adjust cos islamically that is the 'right' thing to do, dress conservatively etc etc, I highly doubt his reasons are religious. Its out of possessiveness and probably jealousy that he wants all this. Its just not the right frame of mind, quite control freakish.
You stated that you have actually cut down on many thing he doesn't like and ur friends and family have been complaining about it? If you are comfortable making these changes then no one else's opinion matters really. But in all honesty I find his demands unreasonable. No heels??? no dark makeup??? no driving!!! give me a break! He has issues which are probably beyond fixing. You will have to make a LOT of compromises in this relationship, many of them unfair and it will end up stifling you.
Think again.
p.s. the txt i still think is wrong. unless smilies are used liberally there is no way for the other person to know whether it was a joke or not. Probably not the best medium to say something like that. Plus he doesn't like ur friends as it is and then for you to be out wit hthem, and they using ur phone to instrust him on how t obehave, I bet that sent him boucing off the walls heh