Re: need help.....
Huda_roha dear, your mother's treatment is really unfair! None of us like loud or angry men but he seems to a benevolent chap who is just a tad bit frustrated with how unjust this all is. It's very sad that your family does not treat you with the love and respect you deserve but you are quite lucky to find a man who truly values you.
Next time he starts to get upset, try displacing his anger. Tell him softly and tenderly how much you love him and if he is just patient then neither of you will have to deal with this again. While you are apart write him letters or copy poems. Maybe keep a diary and write a passage to him everyday. Next time you see him, give him all the notes and the diary and ask him to read them when he misses you and thinks of you. Encourage him to keep up a similar correspondence with you. Give him a nice picture of you that he can keep under his pillow, write something sweet on the back.
Next time he comes to your house and your Mom makes you sit far apart or what not, don't let that stop you from making a connection with him. Smile at him often and have a very happy and positive disposition. If you are serving him a drink or food lock eyes and make a connection. Really and truly, physical contact does not make two people closer to one another. My fiance and I live in different states that are thousands of miles apart. Many couples both engaged and married live countries apart.
Stay strong in your faith and try to be loving and happy and bright. It will be hard for him to stay angry if you are a beacon of cheerfulness.
But dear, do be certain to take note of this as one of his faults. He is impatient and he is prone to extreme anger. Without a doubt, he will exhibit this behavior again during married life. Find ways to deal with it and accept it as a reality.