Ok, I'd give you a very good reason as to why I don't really like feminists. When I was in school and then later in the University, beautiful girls got alot of unfair benefits including extra marks and priority in each and everything when most of them didn't deserve it. I thought that was unfair, and hence the resentment. There are a couple others, but I'd rather not delve into details.
Now coming to you post. So you had a divine reveletion that I got booted ? Once again shows your biased tendencies... it HAS to be a girl who boots a guy and not the other way around.
First, I don't like to share personal information. Second, I consider "enligtened" women as those who blame everything on men. Finally, if my opinion is not-so-cared-for, then why do you bother responding ?
Yeah right, all the working women in Pakistan are angels and the men working there are pigs !!!
Here are the examples of some nasty things that feminists said about housewives:
1. They dont want men that are controlling. I dont think any woman in her right mind would want that.They just want men to take care of their every need. They want men they can be dependent on while they sit back and take care of nothing more then cook, clean and raise children (of course this doesnt apply for every woman in pakistan). Whereas in the West women want to be independent and do things for themselves.....men should be happy...takes the burden off of them.
*2. Well i can imagine ur thinking Ali...I know guy'z mentality is like this ..Even in the 21st century they want us such things..Also in islam there is no household duties for women. Aik larki ka yehi farz hai k wo apnay hubby ko khush rakhay and us k liye tayyar hukar and sanwar kar bethay , even bringing up child is also man's duty. I have a question : Why u guyz marry to educated girls?? You people should have to marry with a matric pass girl who can do these things happily. *
3. My friends I and are are a little tired of being introduced to girls who want nothing more out of life than to produce and endless stream of babies. Before you all rush to flame me, I'm not knocking motherhood (I know that none of us would be here if there wasn't a hard working mother involved somewhere in the process), however, not everyone wants to be married to a full-time-7*24-tied-to-the-cooker-with-a-baby-in-one-arm-and-a-rolling-pin-in-the-other-housewife.
4. *So in conclusion half the women in the world who choose to stay at home and raise their kids, give up their careers and jobs *
a. have no personality b. cook and clean all day c. are baby producing machines d. are not companions but rather maids and babysitters
Bye the way, I think I hit a nerve when I talked of feminism. Just to clarify, you can do whatever you please, thats not my business and I am certainly not one to judge. The only thing is that, I have my own opinion of a subclass of working women and you have a different one. Finally, just for argument's sake, if women in the west are so enlightened and have all the independance they need, then why is the family structure collapsing ? Love to hear about the reasons!!
Oh and bye the way, some working women need to be saluted... but these are the ones who pue the care of their kids and hubby at a higher priority than earning a couple of bucks!!
PS: If you don't agree to my view, then please disagree in a civilized manner, no need to get personal.
See what I mean? You're obsessed with feminists and using the word "enlightened"...is that a word thats been thrown around in front of you by some woman a little too much? Either you have a lot of time on your hands, are very bitter because you were given the shaft by an independant woman and now hate all of them or you're just plain wierd.
Regardless, you have got to stop generalizing that all women in the west are feminists and blah blah blah. I know plenty of Western girls who live in joint family systems and are WAY more traditional then their Pakistan-Imported-Counterparts. Ive seen more of this mentality in women who come to the US then women who were born and raised here.
If you're going to attack Pakistani American families, then I have to say that Ive seen some pretty strange things among people who were visiting from Pakistan and were supposedly very traditional. Ive seen Aunties smoking...my mother has been in the US for 35 years and was apalled by this. Most of my relatives who are in Pakistan wear sleeveless clothes and capris. I had relatives visiting from Pak just a week or two ago who thought we were boring because we dont go clubbing every weekend. OH and btw, they also have a wierd sense of purdah too. They only believe in wearing hijab outside of the house...meaning if they're stepping outside their home limits. They dont wear hijab or abaya if other men are inside their home and as soon as they go to someone else's home they take it off. WTH? What kind of purdah is this? It doesnt matter if a non-mehram steps inside the door, he is still non-mehram! There's plenty more examples of Pakistani traditionalism I can give you if you choose to say junk about Pakistani Americans.
Lastly....................you have got to change your social circle or do something because you're just so full of negativity! Its depressing to even read your posts!