Well, there is nothing wrong with wanting to have children from marriage.
- Girls should obviously be allowed to go out and I think good husbands do take their wives out for dinners/travelling. Though not in a million years I would support girls to going out to "chill" out with some guy friends in a disco or party
- Yeah obviously, they need to learn english what kinda prople stop that!!!
- So if a desi girl in west is wearing desi clothes, you automatically assume its been enforced on her ? Some girls DON'T LIKE to wear western clothes as a choice.
You have some serious issues with desi girls coming from Pakistan.
Of course not, 99% of people want children. But what do you say about the husbands and husband's mother's who don't care what the wife has to offer other than sons and lots of them!
I don't personally know any husband that supports his wife going out with male friends. Any mixed socialising they do is together.
Anyway I think Deeba was referring to not being allowed to go out full stop - to drop the kids to school or to do the shopping... basically anything that gives them any freedom. Knowing how to drive would be out of the question.You need to come to the UK and experience life in some of the 'poorer' desi areas. Did you know that Pakistanis are one of the largest underachieving minorities in the UK? Amongst the issues you will see that a proportion Pakistanis born and bought up in the UK can barely speak or read English; they don't believe in the need for education. So what do you think these sorts of families will expect from any husband/wife that's coming from Pakistan?
You will also see it's common for guys to have arranged marriages from 'back home'; these girls stay at home and do their duties as wife/mother/DIL while the husband continues having his 'fun' outside.
The issue is not with desi girls coming from Pakistan, the issue is what intention they are bought over with.
Anyway, in recent years, I only know of one wife that has come from Pakistan. Most of the marriages have consisted of UK wife with Pakistani husband. Raises interesting questions.