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So you are in a foreign country......and only relative is your sister.....and she doesn't treat you nicely.......am i getting it correctly?
yes. she and one more brother are only blood relative here.
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indeed, she is my real sister and that bother me alot. if she was someone else i really dont care.
ahan ok.
well ignoring hi tareeqa hai kyon ke tumhari baat ka sahi tarah se woh jawab nahi deti.
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well i even dont have this option, i feel she is ignoring me.
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Well.......just reduce contact with her......and hang out with your brother more....... from the looks of it.....it seems talking wouldn't help it........she still thinks you are 6 year old kid.......so only thing you can do......is reduce the interaction.......visit her less frequently.....and for short time......thats it......
there is nothing else you can do......just imagine she does not live near you.....thats all.
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i think she really doesnt want me in her gathering.
i feel, it all started tense when i told her my requirement of future partner.
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i think she really doesnt want me in her gathering.
i feel, it all started tense when i told her my requirement of future partner.
What did you tell her you wanted?
Has there been a difference in your upbringings? A lot of times Ive noticed elder siblings tend to be harsher with younger ones because they feel the younger ones have been spoiled with more opportunities at success than they were. Its not right, but it happens.
How are your parents with the two of you? Does your mom baby you? Be honest?
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i think she really doesnt want me in her gathering.
then don't be in her gathering......just stop interaction with her......nobody can tell you to do anything better than that.... if she doesn't want you near her.......then whats their to think about?
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i think she really doesnt want me in her gathering.
i feel, it all started tense when i told her my requirement of future partner.
haye allah tou woh kya tumhari shaadi apni pasand ki larki se karna cha rahi hai...is she your sister or mom?
acha abhi tumhara us ke saath kitna interaction hai. us se milne jate ho? phone karte ho?
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it is ture my upbringing is different from her. i saw more financially stability in home and really get good opportunities.
in her case she was discriminated or may be our financial stability was not good enough at that time.
i was baby by my father(late). i mean my father really love me. but at one point of time he also publicly admitted that he did wrong in case of my sister and did not allow her good education.
i want beautiful and educated girl.
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haye allah tou woh kya tumhari shaadi apni pasand ki larki se karna cha rahi hai...is she your sister or mom?
acha abhi tumhara us ke saath kitna interaction hai. us se milne jate ho? phone karte ho?
she is my sister. my mom really dont care where my siblings decide my mom will knot my tie.
yup, but i realized, it is not what i really wanted.
i feel that all of my desire are not getting true meaning and i saw great compromises in future life.
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it is ture my upbringing is different from her. i saw more financially stability in home and really get good opportunities. in her case she was discriminated or may be our financial stability was not good enough at that time.
i was baby by my father(late). i mean my father really love me. but at one point of time he also publicly admitted that he did wrong in case of my sister and did not allow her good education.
i want beautiful and educated girl.
When did her misbehavior start? Or has she always been this way?
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she is my sister. my mom really dont care where my siblings decide my mom will knot my tie. yup, but i realized, it is not what i really wanted. i feel that all of my desire are not getting true meaning and i saw great compromises in future life.
ek minute u do understand urdu right?
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ek minute u do understand urdu right?
ji, urdu aati hai.
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When did her misbehavior start? Or has she always been this way?
earlier she once in a while reply rudely, but now i feel it constant for me.
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ji, urdu aati hai.
great.
ok i am a bit confused u are saying that your mom doesnot care and its your siblings who will decide where u should tie your knot? correct?
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great.
ok i am a bit confused u are saying that your mom doesnot care and its your siblings who will decide where u should tie your knot? correct?
yes.
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earlier she once in a while reply rudely, but now i feel it constant for me.
Do you ever answer back?
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i know her rudeness but this time she is just creating drama.
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yes.
yaar seriously u need to stand up for your self. if u like a girl tell your parents if they have no problems but u dont need to ask your siblings for the permission. if i was in your situation i would have only asked my parents and would have married. baat yeh hai ke agar tum abhi apne liye nahi bolo ge tou kal jo tumhari biwi ayegi tum uske ke liye bhi nahi bol sako ge.
jahan tak mera andaza hai your sis didnot get much oppurtunities (as u said) like eduaction, money etc. i'll say take her out for dinner (just u and her) and talk to her throughly. i think mentally she is a bit lost.
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Do you ever answer back?
sometime i just ignore her rudeness, but when my patience dont work, i replied her back.