Re: need advise...cant decide abt shadi:(
I really really really think you should talk to your dad about it as well. Or atleast have your mother talk to your dad about it. He may be able to think more clearly about what is the right thing to do and what is the best thing for YOU. Your mom might be too emotional to think clearly about what is truly right in the long run. Your fiance is your family member...so your mom might be really worried about the family politics involved as well. Your father..... He is the head of your family and YOUR father. He deserves to know the truth of everything. Everyone should be in the know about this situation before any further big step is taken. Because atleast if something is to happen in the future if u do marry him...... atleast no one will say "why didn't you tell us?!?!" before. U don't your dad to be telling you that at anytime. It will hurt you even more so.
My advice is similar to those of others... I do not think luv is everything. There needs to be an understanding and compatibility.... trust ...and respect between a couple. These are MAJOR things missing in your relationship. And in my opinion... These holes will probably never be repaired due to how your fiance has been conducting himself.
I think he is a weak individual....... he knows right from wrong and yet he still cheated on a girl he was engaged to? Forget the other girl and the fact that she knew the situation. The thing u need to focus on is the fact that HE was the one that is engaged to you and HE was the one that chose to get into that relationship with the girl. Someone who had no problem doing this..... how can u believe that he will not be tempted to do the same in the future???? And even worse than tempted...but act on it????
You are obviously not satisfied in the relationship right now...and u are not even married. An unhappy marriage is even worse than an unhappy relationship. Right now atleast you are with your parents and that is a luv and protection that a girl takes for granted. It will be so much tougher for you to deal with these issues that have u have presented in this thread... once u are away from those that luv u and living with him.... the person that has brought so much sadness in your life.
So please..... have that heart to heart with your mom. But ALSO talk to your dad..... let them know EVERYTHING and let them know how you feel. .......