i have been engaged 4 more than two years..the guy is a cousin of mine who propose himself and said that he is in luv... i told my parents to decide..as i had no feelings at that time..my family were happy about the rishta and therefore i got engaged...with time i started to fall in luv with him...ad now i am totally in luv with him...the prob started after one year..we started having fights..he started ignoring me..i came to know that he was having an affair..for past 4 months with a girl at his uni.the girl herself told me.he even proposed her and told her that he will break the engagement.i confronted him and he accepted that he was involved with this girl but he said he was nt serious..he asked for forgiveness and i because i luved him too much forgave him and secondly i didnt want to hurt my parents by breaking the engagement. afterwards our relationship went on with some bumps..but its just that i never was happy again..hhe still sometimes ignores me..hurts me..sometimes he is really sweet too..but most of my time is spent cyring coz of him..but i luv him too much..i am getting married to him in march..ad i just have so many fears that what if he continues to hurt me..but honestly i cant leave him..coz i luv him so much..i feel like a looser...:(...i know he luvs me but he never tries to make me happy..
so girls/guys what should i do...i am just so cofused...i dont want to leave him..but the pain is always there of him being dishonest with me and coz of his cheating and his rude behaviour..but one thing i know he does luv me..but is luv everything :(..please advise (Sorry for the long post)
Without speculating:
1) He's your cousin. shudders
2) He admittedly had an affair with another woman, while still engaged to you.
3) By your own admission he "ignores" you, "hurts" you and "never tries to make [you] happy".
4) Ultimately: it's your life and your call, but you can pretty much tell what I'd do in this situation.