need advise...cant decide abt shadi:(

[NaMaan]

Duniyaa piyaar ka liya jaan de deti ha . App qualities ko roo rahi haan .

I will totally agree with you if she won’t use word ‘‘LOVE’’ . Just take it as another rishta stunt . Where you look at pros and cons , and decide on merit . But if you are claiming your love for someone , then live up to it . Own the whole personality , and not just good things .

Let me give u a simple example . We love our country Pakistan . Don’t we . We all know its has a lot of bad things . But can we disown it ? Never .

@redvelvet

I disagree as well, Nami.

When you marry someone…it’s not like you “love” your partner’s flaws. I think it’s more that you’re tolerant of them…you accept them. And what helps to accept these flaws is that the partner has many other POSITIVE qualities for you to focus on as well. So, you’re able to tolerate the comparatively smaller issues like the snoring…the laziness in not cleaning up…clipping toenails in the living room…leaving socks anywhere…because these flaws are not so overwhelming that prevent you entirely from considering the positives.

BUT…when a person…has negative qualities that are VERY OVERWHELMING…that not only hurt the relationship, but ALSO break your spirit on a CONSISTENT basis…that’s not love. And you’ll soon reach a point where you find it difficult to “love” such a person. And if you do think that you “love” someone who is frequently abusing you or cheating on you…that seems more like an issue with self-esteem/insecurity.