namaaan man ... ca'nt agree with u there bro ... if this guy is showing signs that hes a douche then i say pack up and go ... if u realy think he has changed then give him a shot cuz everyone makes mistakes
I disagree as well, Nami.
When you marry someone.........it's not like you "love" your partner's flaws. I think it's more that you're tolerant of them..........you accept them. And what helps to accept these flaws is that the partner has many other POSITIVE qualities for you to focus on as well. So, you're able to tolerate the comparatively smaller issues like the snoring...........the laziness in not cleaning up...........clipping toenails in the living room...........leaving socks anywhere..............because these flaws are not so overwhelming that prevent you entirely from considering the positives.
BUT........when a person.........has negative qualities that are VERY OVERWHELMING................that not only hurt the relationship, but ALSO break your spirit on a CONSISTENT basis............that's not love. And you'll soon reach a point where you find it difficult to "love" such a person. And if you do think that you "love" someone who is frequently abusing you or cheating on you.........that seems more like an issue with self-esteem/insecurity.