I have a relative in Pakistan whom I like,alot. [yes he is a guy and i am a girl]
But the thing is he is older than me and we get along wen we talk but I don’t think he has ever thought of me that way and i dont no what i shod do bcz:
I live in UK
He only comes here for family weddings, his holidays etc so i dont really talk 2 him 24/7
Hes divorced
Hes older
I feel he might think im not pakistani enough for him or sumthing
and bcz i dont talk such matters with family I am wondering if the ppl of gupshup could offer any advice?
The first question is , why is he divorced ? If you know the reason and you can relate to it then , there are other questions to be answered before giving any advice ? Like do you think he is suitable for you ? Why ?
I think the divorce happened bcz him and his wife just did not get along from day 1. The instant clash just drove to separation and then divorce. hes 6 years older than me and i am single never been married. They were married for about in total 1.5 years but the nikkah was for about 9-10months. he doesnt have any kids.
I like him because we’re both sort of on the same wavelength wen we talk and he has this sensible caring air about him. He is at time immature and makes me laugh.other times hes mature.
I think what I admire the most is that he practices Islam from his heart which for me personally is what I need; someone who is a practising muslim as I want someone who will help me become a better muslim and person.
try karnay mai koi harj naheeN, tang kia police ko phone karna, deport kar daiNgay.
Sahi , reference kay lee-a life 1 ka aik thread mulahiza key-g-a, uss kay mutabiq aisa ho chuka hay , halanka larkay ko larkee ko tang karnay ka moqa bhee nahi mila tha, larkee ko larkay ka paindoo hona pasand nahi tha amma abba nay zabardasti shadee kar dee thee.
So you know him better than anybody, then why this question about age difference , what age difference has to do with deciding to get married to someone who can make you happy. At the end of the day this is what you want , be happy . Right ?
lol. dont worry no zabardastay. He is a really nice guy. my urdu typing and speaking below standard sorry mirch uncle I didnt fully understand what you sed!
I wod like to talk 2 my mum about it but bcz i am 21 and she might think I am jumping ahead of myself [still at uni] wheras my sisters wod never encourage me marrying a pakistani guy! lol never!!!
main issue is tht i dont no if he likes me tht way.
I cant exactly go up 2 him and say i like you do u like me without him thinking me without sharaam. plus its kinda hard to talk 2 him in private bcz when i see him its usually with family involved in the same conversation topic.
As a guy, how wod u feel if a girl came up to and sed i really like you, how wod you handle tht and in my opinion I believe this can instigate problems which society is dealing with today.
main issue is tht i dont no if he likes me tht way.
I cant exactly go up 2 him and say i like you do u like me without him thinking me without sharaam. plus its kinda hard to talk 2 him in private bcz when i see him its usually with family involved in the same conversation topic.
As a guy, how wod u feel if a girl came up to and sed i really like you, how wod you handle tht and in my opinion I believe this can instigate problems which society is dealing with today.
So you have a infatuation toward him . In that case you should finish your education first and calm down. Do not approach him yet , once you have completed your education and if he is still available. then you can involve your parents in the process. Your parents might not like the idea at this point either and would think that you are too immature to think straight. He might think same way too.
no offense..but i think that hte situaito this guy is in.hell probably be flattered that a younger brittish educated igrl likes him..and he probably has his eye on u too missy bcs pakistnai guyzz have their eye on ALL POTENTIAL mates..no matter how much he deos dikawa that he doesnt..
but ur parnets have to approve of him i guess b4 they will be ready to ask for ur ristha from his parents..
no offense..but i think that hte situaito this guy is in.hell probably be flattered that a younger brittish educated igrl likes him..and he probably has his eye on u too missy bcs pakistnai guyzz have their eye on ALL POTENTIAL mates..no matter how much he deos dikawa that he doesnt..
but ur parnets have to approve of him i guess b4 they will be ready to ask for ur ristha from his parents..
thaz kinda true.. he will b flyin the air if he gets to know ure interested. but i mean, cmon, 6 years is not alot of gap for God sake. infact, it is ideal. i m 25 and hubby dear is 31. cudnt b better! but make sure u clear up all things before you decide to get married to him. its imp that you know the other side of the story too and not assume that both of them couldnt work things out. maybe he was in the wrong more???!! check your facts and when ure ready tell your parents.. its not good for u to approach the guy directly.
main issue is tht i dont no if he likes me tht way.
I cant exactly go up 2 him and say i like you do u like me without him thinking me without sharaam. plus its kinda hard to talk 2 him in private bcz when i see him its usually with family involved in the same conversation topic.
As a guy, how wod u feel if a girl came up to and sed i really like you, how wod you handle tht and in my opinion I believe this can instigate problems which society is dealing with today.
listen, if you never tell him of your feelings, you will regret it for ever if you dont get married to the right guy, pls take my advise and talk to him personally, if not face to face then on thru catting, but do tell him,.wat if he has feelings for you too, and even if he doesnt, atleasy you know you tried.nothing bad will happen,e seems like a nice guy and so he wont go all ballistic you know what i mean, go for it!talk to im, maybe this could be an ice breaker and you guys will be in touch a lot more on emails and chat , this way he can get to know you too and you will be able to access your feelings for him.and defo make ot clear to him that you would like to get to know him better and dont say you love him unless you really mean it.
i say go for it girl!!
orrrr what you can do is, befriend him via email /chat ,get to know all the details from im abt his past life and all.and then if you feel it right tell him ow yui feel.,
thank you all of you for replying! seriously its so nice!
But I do think tht when he cums over I will try to become his friend and take it from there.
but ur comments made me laugh i dont think he has 'noticed' me, wish he had though.
