Same family. Same Girl. I thought my comment or comments at that small awkward tea party would have done the trick. Not so it seems. I have recieved an e-mail from her which is short and simple let is odd for our normal method of communication.
We have at no point shown any emotional attachment in our conversations. They are light hearted and full of jest and the like. However this is more sombre and odd. Anyway ladies since you get placed in this position more often than I do.
Ignore e-mail.
Not to ignore the e-mail.
Ah but there is the rub. And that is all I remember from the 2 be or not 2 be sollilque? (spelling?)
lol no we don't!! I would not ignore the email and tell her look lady...its not gonna work out between use for so and so reasons....don't keep her hopes up and waste her time man!!!
What hopes up? I already told her its not gonna work. Had a long chat with her. It seems it still isn't kosher!!
oic...my bad! I thought you were just leading her on! lol Well then i had the same problem with a rishta as well...they wouldn't take no for an answer not only the guy but his whole family!! And the best method to go about getting them off your back which worked...is to say that you did istikhara prayer and you feel that its not gonna work out...and then just ignore emails!!
Here I am offering to solve this major issue for you, and that is all you can come up with? Pfftt. Ignoring is not an option. Handling it , or letting me help is the solution. And I guess you need to clarify matters, but since you're doing such a fabulous job, I thought I might try :p
I never told you did I? Yeah when I was Geneva. This is after my parents informed me that our of our family friends was told me and the girl were engaged. So I am person non-grata in Geneva with the Paki community.
Ignoring is cold but if you are not interested then do ignore. If she continues to email you and stuff then she is the obsessed kind. If she does not well she is a keeper but you are not interested. Just email her (if she does not email again) after weeks saying you were busy etc. Answer her question, tell her you are not interested and you have moved on. Finish.
She is desperate and quite the dheat type - she won't leave you alone until you say yes. I have seen these cases my self, simply send her emaile back with just one word "ok" or "thanks" or "same to you" "that's nice" etc etc.. don't even say Hi or bye or have a good day.. just plain one word.. that's it.
Same family. Same Girl. I thought my comment or comments at that small awkward tea party would have done the trick. Not so it seems. I have recieved an e-mail from her which is short and simple let is odd for our normal method of communication.
And the same CM. *Okay, so what exactly is the problem here? The tone of her email? It's too sombre for you? It's possible that the email is sombre because she was having a bad day OR maybe it does have something to do with you. My advice is the same as it was in your previous thread. Don't ignore her without warning...........that's insensitive. You can tell yourself that you're ignoring her only to help her move on........but there's a more decent way to go about rejection as well. Talk to her about the situation. Tell her nicely that you hope the misconception her parents had about you has been cleared up. Tell her that you see her as a good friend and you want it to remain that way. Then tell her that you believe honest communication is important and that you understand if she wants to maintain a distance from you because you don't want to even unintentionally hurt someone.
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Ignore e-mail.
Not to ignore the e-mail. Go with this one. It's the courteous thing to do; polite but straightforward communication. After this if she persists with strange emails.................THEN.................you can ignore her. And that way it won't seem as rude because you've already done the decent thing of communicating your expectations/feelings to her.
Ah but there is the rub. And that is all I remember from the 2 be or not 2 be sollilque? (spelling?)
^It's spelled soliloquy
****Now, if you TRULY don't have a romantic interest in her.............then don't start chasing her when she starts ignoring you completely. Sometimes that can lead to guys chasing.....only to get attention..........only to repeat the cycle over again.