Husband in control of finances

[Paheli00]

Re: Husband in control of finances

@Xtron

One tip i would like share with you OP is that..give him a reason to trust you first. I think many of us men struggle of the fact that we would like to gain the trust of our wives. And how should one do that?..well may be talking about finances and give him helpful tips to save more or ways you can perhaps save him money. (in your case). And slowly slowly gain trust. I know i know..women think.. her guy doesn’t trust her. Well that might be true..but doesn’t mean we don’t completely trust our wife.

Going by what OP wrote, it seems that she has been following his “rules” from day 1. In fact, according to her she has “never actually talked to him about it” meaning she’s been doing it without complaint. They’ve been married 5 YEARS and have 2 children. As a man, how long do you think is reasonable before a husband realizes his wife’s spending habits are not going to bankrupt him?

BTW, while this seems like a trust issue on the surface…I think it’s more about respect. When I hear about a husband treating his wife in this manner…especially when they’ve been married long enough where he should be aware of her personality/habits, to me it shows a complete lack of respect. A lack of respect for her judgment. Its a bit ironic actually. She’s responsible enough to give birth to and raise his children…but not responsible enough to decide when money needs to be spent on small things like kids shoes/haircut etc. without consulting him.