I have been visiting paklinks for long time, probably since, Pakistan was using those dial tone modems.
I would like to ask for advice for from experienced sisters, please respond to the best of faith, and intellect.
I am 27, 1st of three sisters , a doctor from punjab. My sister, whos one year younger to me, got married last year.
While I was 23-24 I was getting couple for rishtas, which were rejected from our side, by joint consent of my parents and me.
My tayas pressurized my parents to get me married in family, which is typical Pakistani zimindar family, where women only eat and sleep and kids are brought up by masi’s while their husbands run parallel affairs on farm houses. (sad but true).my father never agreed.
My parents were well educated and specially my father has supported me alot, to make alot of choices easier. I have grown to be very independent and have made myself mentally prepared to lead single life, I am currently preparing for step exams and planning to move to US.
Now a friend of my mother has setup a rishta last month, which seemed little odd to us because of the way guy approached us. That aunt know their family well.
before i proceed further, I am little above average in looks, height (rest..) honestly speaking.
Now Guy’s parents talked to my parents on phone, turns out he works in qatar and will be seeing us while switching flights, with some of his conditions imposed for meet up.
-He did not want his parents to come, and he insisted to meet my parents outside in restaurant over dinner, (for which he paid).
During the meet up, he also took aside my father for a walk where he clearly stated alot of things, included how financially different both families are, and he conveyed clear message that he will not be taking any financial help from us, in any way. he is the oldest one, with responsibility to three sisters and parents, who will be relying on him for long time. he did mention some of his struggles as well which my father didnt disclosed to us.
He told them he hasnt seen any rishtas yet, he agreed to come as my aunt had laid out some honest grounds on my positives/ negatives. He was looking for house wife, he cleared.
My parents came back home with positive image, and thought to do some of their own investigation.
Investigation revealed, he’s earned himself a degree from a very reputed university of Pakistan and has worked himself a very decent career so far.
In summary Some red flags:
- He appears very westernized in his looks, very different from his family
- He does not mind the age, being only 6-7 days older to me, (my last rishtas were 30+ guys)
- Guys like him usually end up with very pretty girls, i am different
- for the first time my father has asked me to take this in deep consideration, (i hope this is not because of 2 year rishta gap)
-these days rishtas are usually coming for my youngest sister.
my concern:
i will end up giving up on my profession, with typical housewife life, in country like qatar. financial part is not a concern.
He has seen my pictures on facebook and as agreed in first meet up he is coming to see along with his family next month.
Please asses this scenario sisters, and advise if i should make a compromise.
