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He sounds okay. Just make sure he’s honest . A little more background checj
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Congratulations and may Allah bless you with a happy marriage; Amin. 
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Mashallah! May Allah swt bless you infinitely!
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Demilitarize Do you really think one can change someone’s mindset after marriage? It maybe possible but very difficult imo.
Just saw the post that she got happily engaged. Congratulations!
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Congrats! Another medical degree/spot down the drain
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Can you stop scaring her?
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@hir666 did you get married yet? are you working? update us! 
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Im curious too now
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Congrats on your engagement…may Allah make your life blessed. Ameen.
As a general point of view from this topic, i think everyone who has been or are married would tell you..that marriage is compromise. So you have to compromise not because you married only …and it is because you are married and always promised to be with each other through thick and thin. Always look at the big picture when you are committed. Decide and talk amongst yourselves before making any big decision. Then stand firm. Allah will make things better eventually.
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If after doing Ishtakhara for long hours I get an image similar to this but in all green, what does it mean? I just had a feeling of calmness after dreaming this. It was in regards to a guy I’ve been thinking about for some time now but nothing’s gone forward. He only came to visit with his mother and father but they haven’t said anything yet. How would you view this as? I don’t believe in twin flames or soul mates but when I googled the description of two people embracing, intertwined as in my dream, I got images like this.
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My views have drastically changed towards life, since my original post. After Allah, No one, except myself is in a better position to guide us. No matter how hard we try to contain every aspect for understanding of others, it still is not ‘the’ thing!
I am going to state somethings here, and for sure, they have the very good tendency to spark couple of debates, but I have reached a point in my life, where opinions that matter to me most, I live in them!
There is no one size fits all solution or approach to life, we are all unique in our own ways.
For people who wished me well, and congratulated me, I wish you Gods Grace back! Now for the peeps on the critics side:
- For a typical mbbs larki in Pakistan, these are typical dimensions of her professional degree 1) Opportunity to earn Money 2) Hard Work going in vain (Good education require hard work, always) 3) Ethical Dilemma, not saving enough lives (a microbiologist, or a carpenter, all have their way of saving lives, we just don’t see it) 4) Peer Pressure, most fellow girls getting married to doctor guys etc. 5) Log kya kahen gey factor.
Before marriage, we had engaged ourselves into a lot of talking, mostly over whatsapp, and it only did us good!
Only few will understand this, We, myself and my hubby, have attained a seriously good ground of satisfaction, into each other and life around us. I have the most difficult and demanding job in the world today. Hard work never went down the drain, it’s just paying off! Oh by the way, we happen to have to have this predicament, that mbbs is the most harshly earned thing; No! I have become aware of the hardships and hard work my hubby had to put in, to reach where he is today, is just amazing, and is nothing compared to what I went through.
Life is good, and never had I imagined it would be so good!
I was very wrong in my original post, on atleast two things, I was wrong, using the word ‘compromise’, and I am not ‘average’ looking. Not at all! I just didn’t knew it at that time!