Need advice...from guys only (women stay out)

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:rotfl:

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dont remember the name.

yep

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why did you initiate something you had no intentions of going through?

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^Good question.

What were your intentions Nomi Pai? Were you just bored and looking for someone to entertain you?

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Tell her you're gay. And that the only reason you started talking to her was to see if you have any interest at all in women....and that she failed to spark any heterosexual change in you....and that you still prefer men....even more so after seeing her psycho side.

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Maybe his only intention was just to talk to her...

or maybe he did have serious intentions but she said/did something that turned him off and changed his mind.

I know those who have been in that situation, one person is left wondering what happened while the other just wants to prolong the misery for...whatever reason. X2's advice is best, u gotta be honest and clear.

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listen to Jay Sean

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awwnn...maybe show her some of your posts from on here?

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haha ..

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Start wearing rainbow wristband

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I dont understand why men start talking to girls with no intention of taking it further......cut them off abruptly.......and then wonder why they are acting funny.

Its psychology and many men do this to make themselves feel needed or as diwana put it: "da man".

If I did that to a man, he would do the same thing.

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well, u can start talking with someone with an intention of taking it further if things work out, and if they dont work out, ending it quickly is best for both parties, why drag it on and waste each others time? swiftly does not mean in an uncouth loutish manner, one can be a complete gentleman and be kind and sensitive while making a swift exit.

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Be a dick. Ignore. Avoid. Break promises. Respond to nothing and when she asks, say you were busy but don't act sorry.

He wanted to take it further. But she turned out to be a psycho. So why take it further?

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possible solutions i would have tried if i was in your place

1) Changing the phone number or block her number on your phone so that her calls are automatically rejected

2) answering her phone the next time she calls and totally ignoring her saying who is this? and doing this 2/3 times.

3) no response whatsoever to her calls and texts

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Ive used both approaches:

A) Abruptly end all contact with no explanations because they've just lost their charm and I'm no longer interested.

B) Called them and ended things in a polite manner, wished them well and said good bye.

A was the dumb approach which just makes the other person look for closure - especially if they started to like me.

B was the smart approach and in the end made him respect me more for being upfront and honest.

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I didn't see anywhere in nomi's post where he said he had no intention of taking it further....
Let's just put it this way--while some people take the cowardly way out, it's easy to blame the person (man or woman) who backs off but it's harder to look inwards at our own flaws and see what may have pushed the other person away. IMO both are in the wrong in this type of situation.

Anyways just block her #, i know the SIMs in pak can do that....or just change ur sim :D

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True. I guess a better way of saying that is if he just didnt think there was a future there after they started to get to know each other.

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Or another possibility. Tap it and then split. Though the potential drama is far bigger!

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i guess people didn’t read the thread title…:rolleyes:

All of this below is precisely why i asked women to stay out…but as expected…everyone jumped in…:nahi:
which makes me wonder…what causes the urge?? :konfused:

oh my god!! thats what you think i am??? oh my oh my!!! thats like the extract of all the EVIL men of last months life1 threads…:eek:

ooops 2nd time…

Assumptions oh Assumptions!!!..oh my god…! did i say i initiated it?

my posts are just my posts…posts don’t show the kind of a person someone is…you need to understand that…

Again…assumptions being progagated as truth..:nahi:…philosophy started it…you assumed it as something of a fact…and then went on to analyse it…and conclude with pscyhoanalysis of ‘men’ :eek:

OK…so back to topic…

I didn’t show romantic interest in her or propose to her or anything…as i said before… just talking…and the reason for my running away is her throwing dialogues suddenly…which was enough evidence to make me realise she is nuts…as Sara516 correctly said in one of her posts and X2 said later on…

i only agreed to keep in touch initially because i know she is nuts and might do something stupid (i never promised her anything at all)…i didn’t want to ‘cut it off’ abruptly just like that… i thought with distance she will slowly back off…but she didn’t…

She spent her teen years in UK…i didn’t know UK desi could be so ‘bollywood’…

P.S… where is sarab??

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Poor girl :(