Need a word of advice to avoid future problems

I dont understand how you are coming up with this conclusion?

the sister was acting out of love... there were shootings going on around their place.. if my sister or bro were out, id freak out just as much.

What has that got anything to do with self-esteem? And it's not even a power battle... I have a sister and a bhabi, and i would never think i was losing some power battle...