i am newly married .. 1 month howa hai . hmmm meri love marriage hai . okay shadi k next day sai he meri mother in law nai khoob jhagra keya . wel i am not going to start here like saas bahoo serial sort of thing … but i just want k woh mujh sai khosh rahen .. i want a happy family .. meray inlaws mien hum bas 3 members he hai .. mother in law , husband n me.
main apni taraf sai pora 100% dayti hon . but zara se baat pai woh bohat zeyada react karti hain .. even khana tak bandh hojata hai
what should i do k main unki fav ban jaoun ?? ( i am very depress..
The fact that you mentioned it was a love marriage, is that your way of saying that your mother in law was against it, but her son went through with it anyway? Please elaborate.
Samina, these first few months of your marriage are very important in determining your future relationship with your mother in law. Treat her with respect, but don't bend over backwards trying to please her all the time - she will only expect the same from you all your life. It is important, however, that you don't lose your temper and give her a chance to blow it out of proportion. Somewhere down the road she will understand that she needs her son and DIL and cannot afford to let the relationship sour.
Speak honestly to your husband about this, he is in a better position to talk to his mom.
1.Feed her things with high cholestrol and fat content , halwa with desi ghee , paye , nihari , maghaz etc
2.Do not let her do anything i.e do not let her move a muscle so that she
That will take care of all your issues in just a few month.
1.Feed her things with high cholestrol and fat content , halwa with desi ghee , paye , nihari , maghaz etc
2.Do not let her do anything i.e do not let her move a muscle so that she
That will take care of all your issues in just a few month.
i am newly married .. 1 month howa hai . hmmm meri love marriage hai . okay shadi k next day sai he meri mother in law nai khoob jhagra keya . wel i am not going to start here like saas bahoo serial sort of thing ... but i just want k woh mujh sai khosh rahen .. i want a happy family .. meray inlaws mien hum bas 3 members he hai .. mother in law , husband n me.
main apni taraf sai pora 100% dayti hon . but zara se baat pai woh bohat zeyada react karti hain .. even khana tak bandh hojata hai :(
what should i do k main unki fav ban jaoun ?? :(:(:( i am very depress..
since you said, its only 3 of you in the family.. that seems to me the major reason.. she is bit insecure, thats it..!! don't worry! be good to her! she'll understand you one day..
recite YA-WADOODO every now and then and peenay ke pani p phoonk diya karo ya khana pkatay waqt khanay main, ye salt main, ya suger main........ jab jab moqa milay tab tab bohat baar parhke phoonk diya karo... iske ilawa after namaz, recite Ya-Wadoodo 1000 times with awwal aakhir 3times duruk paak, with closed eyes and imagining her picture in your mind and phir unpe bhi phoonk diya karo! things will be fine soon, InshAllah
Samina beti, agar tumhari saas is shadi se khush nahi thi tau yehi kuch hoga. Ab agay saari life ye sab bardasht kerne k liye tayyar raho. Tum ne bataya k ye love marriage thi, yani tumhari saas ko ye acha nahi laga k un k baity ne khud larki pasand ker li. Is liye wo khush nahi hon gi. Baity ki mohabbat main unhon ne tumhain bahu tau bana lia lekin wo itna khush nahi hon gi.
Lekin koi baat nahi chanda. Saas ki khidmat karo, mohabbat se paish aao, Un se achi tarah baat cheet karo. Shukar karo tumhary susraal main koi nand ya bhabi nahi hai. Sirf saas hai. Tau thori se mehnat aur mohabbat se saas se dosti ker lo. Shoro shoro main tumhain zada mehnat kerni paray gi. Koi harj nahi agar un se pooch ker saray kaam karo. Wo khush ho jain gi aur un ko tum per bharoosa honey lagay ga k un k baitay ne sahi larki se shadi ka faisla kia hai.
Sab theek ho jai ga. Lekin tumhain sabar se kaam lena hoga. Apni ami k barabar na sahi, lekin apni saas izzat aur mohabbat do jese tum kisi bhi baray ko do gi. Allah karay tum apni saas k saath dosti aur achay talluqaat banany main kaamyaab hojao.
So maybe you did something to not make her happy? Maybe it’s a misunderstanding?
Since it’s only the three of you, why not all of you sit down together and calmly discuss whats bothering her. Maybe she got into a fight because it just hit her that her little boy is married, so comfort her. Make her feel special.
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itni jaldi jannat main bhejnay ka irada hai.
