Need a little help regarding friendship:)

[Nisha25]

Re: Need a little help regarding friendship:)

^right the notes thing is something fairytale already said though, it would've been repetitive. i figured he would see RV's post, then the rest of the serious posts on this page right down to fairytale's post which made sense to me too and then down to mine. it's not like he has to follow what everybody said, he knows this girl more than we do so hopefully he'll take bits of everybody's advice and think about it and then make his move.

[Demilitarize]

Re: Need a little help regarding friendship:)

This girl is a "type". She does not mingle with boys at all and therefore would probably hang around with similar minded girls. And if she were to be approached in such a manner, it would mean scandal for her. This type of girl will be judged by her peers (since they are similar ie not mingling with guys) and would be singled out for befriending a guy.

Stay away

[rolla_coaster]

Re: Need a little help regarding friendship:)

do a 5 min dance .

[Mirch]

Re: Need a little help regarding friendship:)

do a 5 min dance .

Care to explain what is that ?

[Crime_Master_GOGO]

Re: Need a little help regarding friendship:)

Is she a tooo religious Muslim or belongs to the family that takes Quran way too seriously ?! If so, then call her brother and tell him that you are fed up of this mehram na-mehram thingy, before marriage. Lets sit together in tahajjud and pray to Allah swt to change HIS rules only for this exceptional friendship story.

If no angel comes to bring the approval, the next step would be to convince her to make a bit of changes in her beliefs...

[mirage]

Re: Need a little help regarding friendship:)

If Naabigh’s advice doesnt work, go for rolla coaster’s.

[Naabigh]

Re: Need a little help regarding friendship:)

@mirage

If Naabigh’s advice doesnt work, go for rolla coaster’s.

Mine always works - specially in such cases - who else know my track record better then you

[sajid20]

Re: Need a little help regarding friendship:)

I really don't see you having anything on your mind other than a good time. Stay away from her.

thanks for getting me wrong :(

[sajid20]

Re: Need a little help regarding friendship:)

@Nisha25

awww such a cute thread

when you two look at each other, is there atleast a hint of her liking you back as a friend? i mean does she atleast notice you or have you made her aware that you want to be her friend or that you want to get to know her better.

yes when she talks with her friends i look towards her face, some times look in her eyes but when she just look at me i quickly start seeing in apposite direction

[sajid20]

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I think that giving her your phone number right away would be awkward...it's too soon for that. When you see her alone...on her way home or whenever....how about just starting off by smiling and greeting her and asking a casual how are you...how'd you do on the assignment/test...etc. A few casual interactions and then maybe tell her that you find her interesting and would like to get to know her better and would she mind if you both exchange contact information.

hmm thats a good point but problem is that rarely she goes alone, sometimes her bro pick her and sometimes go with her friend, by chance when her friends are on leave, then she goes alone but i need some confidence to talk with her. anyways i would try to talk to her then let you know what happened with me :p

[STA]

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to be honest with you. if she is such kind of girl then you should not follow her or being chipko.

forget her and find another gal, who willing to be your pal.

[sajid20]

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@Naabigh

Use formula no 212 - section B :

As you stated that she is good at studies - so my child , go to her asking for help , ask her politely if she cares to share the notes of the subject you find difficult …

try to chase her in library … and around your department’s lawn … when she sits with her friend during break time…

if it doesnt work straight away then use section C of the same formula …

pick one of her friend , and make her your college sister …and then one fine day , with some tears in your eyes , ask her to help you in this regard ..

Yea aj kaal ki generation bi na - sala ek larki ko woo karna nahii atah … ! online forums pe akay help manGte haiN - abey jab hum tumharii Umar k thay na - well we better dont go there

hahaha v nice and you have good sense of humor:) well as i stated i have NO confidence when it comes to talk with girls, even i never ever talk with any of my cousin or any one. section c is tough too i am confuse where to start from she is on facebook, but i dont know her email id

[sajid20]

Re: Need a little help regarding friendship:)

Ask her about some notes or book. Initiate a convo and take it from there. If she is in your class then i am sure you both will get many chances to talk to each other. thora sabar karo.

The guy who is my best friend now from like 10 yrs. we met in Uni. I missed one class for some reasons. This friend of mine (was not friend at that time) came to me and said Oh tum ne class miss kar di. aaj tou bohat important chapter tha. then he said do not worry I will share my notes. here is my phone number, give me call in evening and i will explain." :@:

han kuch aisa he karna parrega bs hmmt nahi hote na but i have waited already so instead of wasting much time, inshAllah i will do something v soon... stay tuned :)

[Khumar]

Re: Need a little help regarding friendship:)

If you go to her while she is walking out the gate of the university and hand her your email address/phone number, you know what she will do? She will think you’re a creeper, she will tell her friends what you did, and they will for the rest of your college career make fun of you.

Meray bhai, don’t even think about that move. Ever. Anywhere. In the world. It’s ridiculous and frankly it’s creepy. You don’t want her fraanship alone, because if you did, you would have had no problem talking to her. So I suggest that you clear that stance with your own self first. If you are really adamant about getting to know her a bit more, talk to her when she is with her friends to put her at ease. Talk about an assignment, the professor whatever it is. Don’t corner her alone. She will never like it. Get to know her with friends, and through that you can slip her oyur phone number/email/facebook/orkut whatever. Stop stalking her btw.

[sajid20]

Re: Need a little help regarding friendship:)

you both need time to get comfortable around each other. get to know her better. the more you talk with her the less shy you both will be around each other. offer to hold her books for her after you offer to walk her home from college/school. be chivalrous meaning be courteous and charming with her. find out her interests, if she likes poetry, try to write her poem, even if it's a first try she might find it cute that you even attempted writing poetry for her.....

and be a man, get over the fear of rejection, i know it's easier said than done but be real about it. if it's supposed to work out it will, if not than Allah has some other special girl in mind for you, see this as just a trial run or a way for you to build confidence about approaching or talking to women and a way for you to understand what type of woman you like or the type you want to be with. see it as a way of taking steps to understanding yourself better and developing a better you

thanks for your guidance and yes i am nervous mainly because i have fear God forbid, she would reject me but now i am gonna talk with her v soon

[NomiCA]

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hey...someone said

stalk before you talk.....

PS...i think i just made that up

[sajid20]

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@NomiCA

OP…when you get chhitrol …none of these people going to offer condolenscences…

LOL:blush:

[sajid20]

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@cutefifa

No Nisha it won’t work if he offers to hold her books or walk with her with out any friendship. I am sure she will not like it. Instead start your friendship with her by asking for notes or lectures. Its a best approach and it works most of the time :p. after two or three times of lein dein of notes or lectures, ask her permission for adding her on fb so that you can discuss lectures in detail with her. When you start chatting with her ask for her number when you feel that she has started trusting you. After this i am sure you will not need more advice seriously.

Best of luck.

so finally a member from my city karachi:) [FONT=Comic Sans MS]main bhi ye he soch raha the fb pe add karlun so i will try to talk with her par mera heart fail na hojaye kahin:blush: coz iam not that type of guy who feels comfortable while talking with a girl

[sajid20]

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@Demesne

This girl is a “type”. She does not mingle with boys at all and therefore would probably hang around with similar minded girls. And if she were to be approached in such a manner, it would mean scandal for her. This type of girl will be judged by her peers (since they are similar ie not mingling with guys) and would be singled out for befriending a guy.

Stay away

i can’t

[Demilitarize]

Re: Need a little help regarding friendship:)

If you cannot, then the best thing to do is to befriend a friend of hers. Get to know that friend well and perhaps approach her through that friend. Let the friend be the one to praise you and make an introduction. That is a better way to go about it. It's longer, but better.