Need a break...

Niksik · April 27, 2011, 8:25pm

Re: Need a break…

Nik, I don’t know how ANYONE can live without their child for an extended period. With that said, this has happened in my own family, sort of. When my brother’s first daughter was born, his wife took her off to her maika for 3 months so my bro missed the first 3 months of his first daughter’s life. The first 3 months, while the toughest for us, I think were the most critical in establishing a bond that has made me and my daughter the best of friends.

Then when his second daughter was born, his wife again went off to her maika for 3 months taking both girls. So now my brother has missed a total of 6 months of his 3 year old daughter’s life and the first 3 months of his second daughter’s life, again, a critical period. What makes me really sad is that my brother is happy when they’re all gone, he seems to have time to himself to play video games and relax, watch movies, come and go as he pleases. This has led me to the conclusion that he is not happy to have kids or ready to be a dad. I have extreme contempt for him and his wife and the way they are raising their daughters. As a consequence of their 5hitty parenting, their older daughter is NOT pleasant to be around and so it perpetuates itself, they don’t LIKE spending time with their older kid and they dump her on grand parents or other relatives all the time to go to the movies and stuff, as a result, older daughter’s behavior gets worse and worse.

It’s sad, but some people are just not fit to be parents and I honestly believe that not having contact with your child for months can have dire consequences. With ALL that said, I can understand that if there is a true majboori, then that may be the only solution but just for a ‘break’, I think that’s incredibly silly.

Listening to this lady’s thoughts is making me think more and more that’s she’s unfit to be a parent.

And in the case I talk about…her husband is one of the most supportive husbands you can imagine.