When they keep saying such stuff about they will do this n that but doing. One can’t help but be disappointed! especially if its the first only grand kid and my first baby.
Nano vs. dado
When they keep saying such stuff about they will do this n that but doing. One can’t help but be disappointed! especially if its the first only grand kid and my first baby.
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I was working 8am-6pm and running my home when pregnant, the only person I expected help from was my husband. My son was 2 months old when I was back at work, again the only person I expected help from was my husband.
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Well, is your disappointment going to matter to your mil? No right? So in the end, it’s you on the losing end. I’ll say it again, stop expecting and you won’t be disappointed.
You can’t make people behave how YOU want them too. And like Lusi said, at the end of the day, it’s you and your husband’s responsibility, not your mil’s.
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You don’t need an entire clan/poora tabbar to support u during delivery.Your own mother is enough. My cousin delivered her first baby in a different country while her patents were in Pakistan..there are many cases where family can’t be present.
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Why are you even wasting our time wondering about their so called planning when you don’t even like your in-laws. Admit it…you don’t like them. You still haven’t gotten over the showing off and lying about designer clothes and the disappointment of your bari…so why do you have expectations that they’ll help out now?
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Maybe I’m weird…but if I know that the presence/involvement of a blood relation such as a cousin or khala tends to be more problematic than pleasant for me…then I don’t miss them. I’m grateful for the absence as that means more peace in my life and less drama. And these are blood relations. I don’t care if so n so didn’t give a gift or didn’t participate. If I know someone isn’t sincere with me, I don’t even want them to know details about my life let alone come for a visit, I don’t even want gifts from them when something as basic as respect can’t be given by them. So, it boggles my mimd as to why you are so “dukhi” and “ghamgeen”??? Your baby will be too young to even remember if dada n dadi showed up and the baby won’t care. Your in-laws will have plenty of opportunities to be with baby later on.
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if your in-laws had come to help, then you might have been complained that today MIL said this to piss me off, today she complained about my cooking, she keeps telling me to do this n that and i’m tired, she’s keeping my husband all to herself and I don’t see him any more…she elbowed the baby (if ur busy bee).
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it seems like a case of na tum un k absence main khush ho…aur agar woh aatay, to tum shayad tab bhi khush na hoti. Think about this.
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Raising my hopes? What hopes!!! The only one who would have hopes from them is your husband cuz they’re his parents. You don’t even like them, so why would u even have hopes? Does it give you satisfaction to point out in-laws failures to your husband so that he thinks badly of his parents? “Dekhiye na…aap k ammi abu abhi tak nahi aaye. Unhon ne passport bhi nahi banaya aur woh kitnay waday kar rahay thay. Kya woh aap ki parwah nahi karte etc etc?” That would just make him feel bad.
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See the bigger deal is not if js parents visit u as they live abroad. The bigger deal is if your parents…who live closer… can help out. Your are putting the spotlight in the wrong direction unnecessarily.
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You don’t like them. They create more stress for u. So is your “venting” necessary? Does it help? Does it bring u more sawaab?
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^^^ This.. 
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Pregnancy is not an illness. Totally agree but but but even if my sil catches fly or has a headache I am tolf to take care if her go to her room and ask her if she needs anything. On the other hand not once did anyone tell her to atleast ask me if I needed any help in the kitchen etc. Khair jo hona tha ho gya. Even if I generally told mil that I had a backache or something she’d casually say haan sab ko hota hai no biggie.
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^^ as I said before stop expecting from your inlaws, work on your husnbands helping you, giving time for you to rest, communicating with his parents when needed. Your MIL will always say its not a biggie unless your husband steps up for you. All the best.