Nano vs. dado

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Re: Nano vs. dado

@RoseAli

Trust me, I’m also on my own during the pregnancy. My parents live couple of hours on drive away but they can’t come regularly! But thank god, they will be here to support me during the delivery! Husband is also supportive but you know how men are like! There not always there 100% to do work! lol I wonder what happen to the so called plannings of my pILS of coming here and do stuff when they haven’t even applied for passports!

1. You don’t need an entire clan/poora tabbar to support u during delivery.Your own mother is enough. My cousin delivered her first baby in a different country while her patents were in Pakistan..there are many cases where family can’t be present.

2. Why are you even wasting our time wondering about their so called planning when you don’t even like your in-laws. Admit it…you don’t like them. You still haven’t gotten over the showing off and lying about designer clothes and the disappointment of your bari…so why do you have expectations that they’ll help out now?

3. Maybe I’m weird…but if I know that the presence/involvement of a blood relation such as a cousin or khala tends to be more problematic than pleasant for me…then I don’t miss them. I’m grateful for the absence as that means more peace in my life and less drama. And these are blood relations. I don’t care if so n so didn’t give a gift or didn’t participate. If I know someone isn’t sincere with me, I don’t even want them to know details about my life let alone come for a visit, I don’t even want gifts from them when something as basic as respect can’t be given by them. So, it boggles my mimd as to why you are so “dukhi” and “ghamgeen”??? Your baby will be too young to even remember if dada n dadi showed up and the baby won’t care. Your in-laws will have plenty of opportunities to be with baby later on.

4. if your in-laws had come to help, then you might have been complained that today MIL said this to piss me off, today she complained about my cooking, she keeps telling me to do this n that and i’m tired, she’s keeping my husband all to herself and I don’t see him any more…she elbowed the baby (if ur busy bee).

5. it seems like a case of na tum un k absence main khush ho…aur agar woh aatay, to tum shayad tab bhi khush na hoti. Think about this.

6. Raising my hopes? What hopes!!! The only one who would have hopes from them is your husband cuz they’re his parents. You don’t even like them, so why would u even have hopes? Does it give you satisfaction to point out in-laws failures to your husband so that he thinks badly of his parents? “Dekhiye na…aap k ammi abu abhi tak nahi aaye. Unhon ne passport bhi nahi banaya aur woh kitnay waday kar rahay thay. Kya woh aap ki parwah nahi karte etc etc?” That would just make him feel bad.

7. See the bigger deal is not if js parents visit u as they live abroad. The bigger deal is if your parents…who live closer… can help out. Your are putting the spotlight in the wrong direction unnecessarily.

8. You don’t like them. They create more stress for u. So is your “venting” necessary? Does it help? Does it bring u more sawaab?