Re: Naming the first baby and Family involvement..
I like akmoti's idea.....ask both parties for the suggestions and you and your husband can finalize the name.
this. just make it clear that you and your husband will have the final choice to avoid any ill feelings in case you choose a name from your parents side and not something the inlaws suggested.
OR
ask your parents privately to submit their favourite names to you, and then you put them forth as your own personal selections when the time comes for you and hubby to decide. this really is one case where not everyone needs to know everything.
Re: Naming the first baby and Family involvement..
Ugh, I'm going through the same problem...well, went. I gave up eventually. My situation is kind of exactly the same as yours. First boy for my side of the family, but my in-laws + husband want final/only say on the naming matter, even talking directly to my in-laws didn't solve anything for me. I feel terrible that my parents and I are being left out...but I just got too tired of arguing and stressing out over the situation. The name my in-laws want is great (Ibrahim)... but I just would have felt a million times better if they had asked me and my parents how we felt about it. Anyways, after much stewing/feeling terrible about it, I realized it was dumb to do so lol cos it's the beautiful name of one of the greatest prophets in the end and my parents claimed not to feel bad about it either.
If your husband supports you, then the best option is to get a couple of names you absolutely love and suggest them to your in-laws and your parents...let it go forward from there.
Re: Naming the first baby and Family involvement..
what about taking 2 names and using one as the middle name? I think when we have kids thats what I want to do espeically if we have a boy first. My hubby's dad passed away a couple of years ago so it means alot to him to name our kid after his dad. I think as a middle name we'll keep my dad's name so the kid will be named both after his dada and nana. At least this is our plan right now.. who know what will happen when we actually have it.
Re: Naming the first baby and Family involvement..
In my fam., my grand dad(dada g-May God less his soul with Jannah) named my whole male cousins so the great thing is we all have AN as our last letter whihc make our names rythemic.For instance Shayyan, Furqan, Rayyan.
My mum still sometimes complain how she was not allowed to even suggest a name...acha he howa she wanted to name me ******( my nana g name-May god bless his soul with Jannah).
Re: Naming the first baby and Family involvement..
My mum still sometimes complain how she was not allowed to even suggest a name...acha he howa she wanted to name me RASHID( my nana g name-May god bless his soul with Jannah).
Rashid is one of the "names/attributes" of Allah.....shame on you for not appreciating it.
Re: Naming the first baby and Family involvement..
In my fam., my grand dad(dada g-May God less his soul with Jannah) named my whole male cousins so the great thing is we all have AN as our last letter whihc make our names rythemic.For instance Shayyan, Furqan, Rayyan.
My mum still sometimes complain how she was not allowed to even suggest a name...acha he howa she wanted to name me RASHID( my nana g name-May god bless his soul with Jannah).
Your mom was not allowed? To suggest a name for HER child. Wow. Just wow.
Re: Naming the first baby and Family involvement..
Thanks ever so much guys ..there has been some really wise advise here . As a final thought I think i will do what some of you suggested , ask both sides to suggest suitable names and then husband and I will finalize the name .. at least that way there wont be any rough feelings between husband and me regarding family issues ..
The only thing is that i really wanted my mother and father to feel that they have named the baby .. but then again if i make it a big issue several other people will pounce in to make the matter worse . Hence I guess best thing is to just take the middle path and let things be sigh
Re: Naming the first baby and Family involvement..
Could you not just go with your parents suggestion but tell everyone that you picked a name out of the hat kinda thing from all the suggestions received from both sides?
