My wife has asked for a Divorce, what if I dont want to give?

[La_Parisienne]

Re: My wife has asked for a Divorce, what if I dont want to give?

@psyah

Peace Amarbail

What have you tried to do in order to reconcile the situation that caused her to make this request?
It is more important at this stage to attempt turning her heart in your favour than think about the legalities.

Story …

There was a man who never listened to his wife, one day she demanded a divorce and he gave her it. She was shocked. “Why are you shocked?” he asked. “Well you never listened to me before, why now?” … But it was too late.

The moral of the story is that when a woman demands a divorce she is actually asking for you to bring about a change in yourself or else she will go and get a divorce - a khula. In that you have no control, by asking you to give her a divorce she is expecting the opposite because she still respects you enough to “ASK” you for a divorce. The female psyche may take a bit of getting used to … but that is the way it is.

I say buy her some flowers and chocolates and tell her that you don’t want to get divorced and that you love her. And back this up with sincere du’ahs that your love for her increases and her love for you.

I’ll do the same … Ameen.

GOLDEN WORDS. BEST ADVISE ANYBODY COULD HAVE GIVEN TO ANYONE ON THE SUBJECT.

I WAS ALMOST IN THIS SITUATION, DID ALMOST EXACTLY WHAT PSYAH HAS RECOMMENDED AND AM GLAD TO SAY WE ARE A HAPPY COUPLE SEVERAL DECADES SINCE THEN.

DO NOT GIVE UP (ANYTHING EXCEPT YOUR FAILINGS AND EGO) - TRY TO UNDERSTAND WHY AND REMEDY THAT.