My wedding, which was supposed to be the best day of my life has turned into an nightmare :
I hate my wedding dress of both days so much, omg I want to burn them down, none of them are of my choices
I’m not allowed to get ready from my favorite parlor neither i’m I allowed to wear 4 inches heels
The jewellery which goes with my first day dress has two missing pieces which were supposed to hang on my hair
No lights decoration on the house, I LOVE LIGHTS DECORATIONS SO MUCH
-My dad, my brother and half of my family won’t be able to make it to the wedding
There will be no wedding cards distributed
My brother was supposed to take pictures but as he won’t be able to come, no nice pictures of me as memories
Not the whole family is happy about this wedding i’m sure I won’t receive any gifts
My in-laws are so parsimonious
I have no nice make-up boxes, actually I don’t have any make-up stuffs at all
I will live in the ugliest room at my in-laws place
I’ll probably have to wait a year in order to have a proper honeymoon and by that time, I don’t even think i’ll go
And the worst is I could have lived the wedding of my dreams if my husband would have waited one year, our budget would have been greater, I could have been so much happy, have niece memories, but my husband doesn’t wanted to wait. All my dreams got crushed down, I hate my life and myself at this moment :‘(
HUSBAND, WHY COULDN’T YOU WAIT ONE YEAR ? MY DREAMS WOULD HAVE BECOME TRUE, I WOULD HAVE BEEN LIKE A PRINCESS :’(
That’s not nice… but if there is nothing else you can do, then try to make the best out of your situation. The things about the wedding day itself, e.g. dress, heels, make up, jewellery etc, are sad, but remember it’s just one day of your life (okay, probably the most important day of your life…) but try and focus on the things you DO have for that day like e.g. do you like the hall in which you’re doing it? the menu? what about how it will be decorated? also your dresses may be ugly, but once you are all tayyar in your make up and jewellery, with dupatta setting and all your bling, you will look amazing. Guaranteed. Every dulhan always does. I hated my walima dress, but everyone was saying I looked beautiful just because the stage was matching to me, my make up and hair all set everything off - everything adds to the look.
As for photography - that’s a real shame your bro can’t do it, but you definitely need photography, so try and get someone else to do it?
As for the other more long-term issues e.g. where you will live, and when you go on your honeymoon - try and talk to your husband/in-laws about changing it if possible. If you are sacrificing so much on your wedding day try and get the long-term things sorted out, as they are more important.
well... take it this way..it's not about the wedding of your dreams..it's about the happily ever after? You'll be with your hubby as soon as possible, so just take it that way. When is the wedding? Maybe there's still some time to fix some things?
I actually really needed to shout my pain out, we're lacking time and greater budget, there lies the problem and besides it's kind of our first wedding preparation ever, so yeah... :/
You're getting married. I'm thinking to the guy of your choice? That means more than a shaadi jora, make up and jewellry. everything in your first post is negative, you don't want that in your marriage. be positive and pray for the very best.
You sound so superficial. The only thing that really stood out to be a problem in this whole post of yours is that your father and brother won't be able to attend the wedding. I hope that somehow they manage to come.
I understand weddings can be a stressful time and budgets can be tight, but you need to work around what you have instead of what you could have. There is no guarantee that you will have the best wedding next year as everything is pre-destined. Who knows, your situation may be a lot more worse next year than it is this year.
As for the whole in-law issue - how are you planning on living with them if you've got these sorts of problems already? Please talk to your fiance about these issues because in your case it seems like it will remain an issue later on too.
It's either you don't marry him or have a "flop" wedding. If these things are bothering you so much now do you think you'll be ok once you've moved in with your in laws?
My baraat jora was the cheapest looking thing ever. Not my choice. BUT I wore it and I felt like a million bucks even though I probably looked horrible.
The venue was a teeny tiny restaurant and the backdrop to our "stage" was a white chaadar with rose petals taped (yes you read that right) onto it. My wedding pictures are hilarious ... my wedding video too ... we watch it when we're in need of a good laugh :D My "honeymoon" was a trip to murree a few weeks later when we visited Pakistan, my inlaws as well as their extended families all tagged along .... yeah! But you know what? I was still the happiest bride there was ... I remember on the night of my baraat my husband looked at me in that horrible dress (it was bright red made out of net and had cheap bright golden kaam on it AND it was probably 2 sizes too big for me lol ... don't ask me why) and said I looked beautiful. That is all that matters in the end of the day. Your wedding day is not where it ends .. it is only the beginning of what will be (iA) a long and happy life with your husband and future babies! Chill out and focus on whats more important.
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My "honeymoon" was a trip to murree a few weeks later when we visited Pakistan, my inlaws as well as their extended families all tagged along .... yeah! But you know what?
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Don't worry. Everyone has this sort of list of things they wanted for their special day, but you don't always get what you want, that's part of life. Hopefully all this compromising is preparing you for your marriage instead. Everytime you find yourself focusing on everything that is going wrong with your wedding, try to focus on the fact that you're marrying someone lovely who loves you, and if that doesn't work you can always just try forgetting about the wedding once you're married.
, now the question is how can GS help you
