Re: my turmoils begin again. fed.up of myself.
I’ll wait for page 3 then.
Re: my turmoils begin again. fed.up of myself.
Do any of you ever think about your childern? Its always the same case of you running back to the UK to live with your mummy or he wanting to stay back to his with his mummy. Wishing to live with your mummy when you are grown up individual with two kids and without bothering to seek employment is not a very British thing or is it nadz?
Ewww it must be the damned 'paki' culture.
Re: my turmoils begin again. fed.up of myself.
In all honesty and seriousness, marriage is all about team work. Now you need to decide whether you guys can make a good team or not.
Re: my turmoils begin again. fed.up of myself.
Haii nadz, please take some Flakes, Crunchie, and Maltesers back for kaamwali, it will halp in long run 
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Of course I think of kids. And no I don't want to live with my parents.how cab I think of employment when he doesn't want to come here yet. We are here for a long holiday I wants to get away and for a while.hence the 5 months gap but how can I work when he wants us back. I would love to work. So please don't give me the freeloding speech
I wish I was working had a home in the UK and I.believed we were making steps in that direction. But obviously not.
Re: my turmoils begin again. fed.up of myself.
Of course I think of kids. And no I don't want to live with my parents.how cab I think of employment when he doesn't want to come here yet. *We are here for a long holiday I wants to get away and for a while.hence the 5 months gap * but how can I work when he wants us back. I would love to work. So please don't give me the freeloding speech
I wish I was working had a home in the UK and I.believed we were making steps in that direction. But obviously not.
This pretty much sums up how serious you are about the whole move. I know people who will find a job even if it is for 2 months, you are here for 5. By getting a job you could be proving him that you are serious.
Re: my turmoils begin again. fed.up of myself.
5 months is a long time......
if you get out there and even work part-time it would allow you to network and put things in place for when you are ready to have a full-time job that will fund the immigration process.
having said that......it sounds like your hubby is not keen to move anyway so.....I get it....why bother?
btw......I thought this WAS the move.......when did it turn into a holiday?
if we had known that this was only going to be a break then we wouldn't have been telling you to be patient and hang in there when you encountered further difficulties in your last few months there.....
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From what I see he is a good husband that has sent you to your family for 5 months. I could never ever live away from my family for more than a week. My family is going to Pakistan at the end of April till mid June and I m depressed about it already. Cherish what you have instead of complaining about what you don't.
Re: my turmoils begin again. fed.up of myself.
This exactly! 
Nadz, all these months of anticipation, you presented it as the “final move”, when did it become just a get away? And all this back and forth after 5 months…2 years…that’s a lot of $$$ in airfare..wouldn’t that money serve a better purpose in your savings account to go towards immigration requirements? Neither you, nor your husband are making logical decisions. You both need to seriously reevaluate the situation.
Re: my turmoils begin again. fed.up of myself.
If you agreed to live in Pak before you got married then I really have no sympathy for you. You signed up for this, now deal with it.
my turmoils begin again. fed.up of myself.
Definition of Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
Nadz, you have children, how can you keep going in a cycle of this? Isn't this affecting their schooling? How can you and your husband be so immature. You need to seriously think before going back and stand up for your family. I've been away from my husband it's really hard but for a greater purpose and for the sake of your future riding on it, a couple of damn months away is NOT a big deal. You need to take care of that immigration ASAP.
my turmoils begin again. fed.up of myself.
Sorry to read all this Nadz. Even I assumed that you and hubby will be moving to UK for gd. Your husband doesn't seem keen to move. Do u think its possible for you to succumb and love in Pak but not in the same home as ur MIL?
Re: my turmoils begin again. fed.up of myself.
Sorry to read all this Nadz. Even I assumed that you and hubby will be moving to UK for gd. Your husband doesn't seem keen to move. Do u think its possible for you to succumb and love in Pak but not in the same home as ur MIL?
I don't know how keen she is when she comes up with excuses for things she has to do. sorry Nadz for being a harsh critic. I believe if you want something then you should make sincere efforts to achieve it. You are not making any sincere efforts to better your situation. What will be your run away plan for few months when your kids are in school?
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Nadz, people give such sound advice to you and have been giving it for a long time. It just seems like you come here to get advice but that's it. You don't take anything away from here. I would say work with what you got. You make a list of pros and cons of living in UK and ask him to list pros and cons of living in Pakistan. Be realistic and keep your kids in your mind as their future and well being should be the priority. Even if you have to live in Pakistan for the next 2 years. Make a game plan of what you will do, how will you save enough money that once you do come back to the UK you can live off that savings.
A relationship is give and take. You both have to give some and take some.
Re: my turmoils begin again. fed.up of myself.
I know
I didn't mind not saying it as we planned that I would come back oern next march. I would go back this Aug
To pak.and I didn't mind the few month's back there
Atkeast it was a step in the right direction.
I could get a job. I have 2 small children and I would never burden my mother with them all day. But I may actually apply for a job however I need to go bk on Aug so working now or not doesn't make a difference.
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Its not about immigration guys. The issue is he again has changed his mind about the immigration so all seems worthless.
Re: my turmoils begin again. fed.up of myself.
How can I make sincere efforts if husband isn't willing nd in the same mind frame as me.
Re: my turmoils begin again. fed.up of myself.
Nadz how old is your eldest daughter? Try to explain it to him that it would be better for them to start their school in the UK (safer etc). Maybe if you put them first before him, he might start to think in that direction. It might not work instantly, but at least you would have planted a seed and it will cause him to think about it more.
If you don't mind me asking, what do you say in defense when he says that he does not want to move for the next 2 years? Show him that you are putting the children first now.
Is he an only son?
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He says there's nothing wrong with schools there. And its only nursery. I have said this many times.
He has a younger brother whose.unmarried yet.
Re: my turmoils begin again. fed.up of myself.
Eldest is 2 .