Athen bride you totally have the wonrg end of the stick moving out will not solve the problem but infact blow it out of all proportion. She will be accused of taking the son away etc all the asian crap that comes with it.
Also one incident does not at all in the slightest equal mistreatment it means they can all sit down and resolve it but ego problems and the rest of asian bull**** culture may stop that.
the fact is that the girl needs to live her life as it was she is not being oppressed from what i can see. the sil is here temporarily the mil will be back and it sounds as if she aint a bad person. Apart from the fact that she dared not to get a maid for a kid.
Well I hate to break it to you but it is your parents fault.
They said to people on two occasions that you are week and there is not servant to take care of the baby. So they interfered which made the in laws feel that they were not doing right by you even though they probably are doing their best.
Frankly I think you are a very spoilt individual my mother got married abroad and raised a family of six and we are all successful individuals and she had no family at all here to help and there is no such thing as maids and servants in England.
You should be lucky you have a servant. Women nowadays do not want to take responsibility I say suck it up and be a strong woman and take care of your baby and family. Take vitamins or go doctors.
I can’t believe that you think you are the victim in this your parents unknowingly or knowingly did besti of your in laws and that is why parents should not get involved in their daughters home lives except for cases like domestic violence.
Again suck it up and take care of your responsibilities, children are hard to take care of they wake up every 5 minutes they scream and shout the get ill, they teeth crying is the only way they communicate it’s called motherhood and if you can’t take care of one child then god help you.
I agree with you!!
In Pakistan woman just think they are "WOW" when they have some servants working for them...I like to do my own work...Even my Inlaws don't have any servants...But they have a really big house..My jaitani and SIL keep working in the house alll day..MY MIL doens't do anything....Not even looking after the three kids my jaitani has...
So if my jaitani can do this all...why can't you??
I'd never like to raise my childeren up by a servant....
If you have a very busy job or whatever..then I can understand it...But you don't have any job!!
So what do you do all day long??
I think you have to live your own life...You have left your parents house...I can understand that your InLaws minded it..that you parents interfered about stupid thing like taking a MAID!!
correct me if im wrong, but did you not recently open a thread about ur parents wanted a maid for your kid???
if so then I think they should keep out of it, cause at the end of the day its up to ur inlaws u and ur hubby, ur parents have suggested it and I thinks thats enough, cause at the end of the day some people dont want servents bringing up kids, and I am one of them.
I mean come on girl u have people doing the cooking and cleaning, im sure u can look after a 1 year old!
and y is the baby waking up every 20-30 mins???
this is not normal y not open a thread in parent forum and get some advice.
some advice, I can think of now.
during the day let your child nap in a well lit room, this will encourage the child to have shorter naps throughout the day.
At night time ensure the room is darkened and try not to keep picking up ur baby, when he/she wakes try rubbing his/her back but not physically picking up the baby, inshallah the child should learn to sleep through the night very quickly.
and try bathing the baby and massaging the baby b4 badtime.
like a lot of other people i'm surprised that pakistani women can't raise children without extra help is life really hard there? i mean here in the USA (in my household at least )both my parents work, our house is well kept and clean, there are fresh meals everyday, and not only that but since over here paying for stitiched clothes is expensive mom sews us suits too in her spare time. she lives in a joint family my chachoos lived with us for a while going to school and my grandparents still do to she had to serve them as well and see there needs being met. fast paced demanding society- america.
on the other hand my cousin in pakistan who doesn't even work needs a maid to play, and care for her kids, while another maid cleans, while my cousin only cooks and stays home all day, is life really that hard there really? nothing aimed at gullible cause i dunno what her house situation is like and the baby may be draining due to sickness....but this all comes in the package of motherhood.