2 months earlier my mom came to me to attend my baby’s first birthday. She slept with me at night. Next day she was very upset to see that my baby wakes up every 20 30 minutes. I had already told my husband n mom dad that I need a maid. Husband was always reluctant but my parents tried to send me one from their city but no one agreed. So wen mama was here, she talked to my mil k aap koi maid rakh dain, she said mujhe koi milti nai hai, ek rakhi thi wo Sara din wait kar kar k chali gai ye ooper se he 1 bjay aai. Although my mil never told me that she called a maid. They had a long discussion on this topic but things didn’t go bitter at all. My elder bil was sitting there too wen this discussion was going on. Next day mama went to her sis’s place who lives at islamabad. Few days later, I went there too as we go to my khala’s place every year during summer holidays. Mama abu n two brthers were there too. After a few days my husband came to pick me. Mama abu n I n my husband went to visit my eldest sil (out of six sils). I visited her even before, few days before my hint came n wen she saw me she was like tum kamzor hogai ho baby ki waja sevsara din iss ki duty Jo deti ho iss ko feed karana chhor do give her bottle etc. Jab I went at her place with mama abu n huby she repeated this again k GULLIBLe kamzor hogai hai baby ki waja se. Mama said Han mujhay tars aata hai bara iss pe. Khud b chhoti si hai aur itni busy hogai hai kamzor hogai hai. After that I came back to home with my hubby. My mother in law went abroad the next day I left for Islamabad. And she called her daughter from karachi, who is married and settled there n have a son and a daughter both grown ups. My mil made her incharge of the house. Althogh my youngest Sil lives with us with his 7 yr old son ( she has been divorced). 2 days after I came home, my parents left Islamabad n came to visit me before going back to their city. They were sitting in the drawing room. No one came to greet them except I. While we were chatting, my Karachi wali Sil entered the room. My mom stood up to meet n hug her but she didn’t come forward to meet. Dur se he Salam kar diya. Throughout the time she was there, she was talking to my father only, she started saying Ami has made me the incharge of this house. Mama said to me tumhari skin pe itnay pimples ku nikal aye hain I said mama yahan garmi buhat hai, sil said tum tow yahan Sara din AC main rehti ho. Mama abu ko ghussa aya but they stayed quiet. Phir abu asked me ab baby sai soya hai raat ko ya abi bi bar baar uthta hai. I said abi bi buhat zada uthta hai. Sil said to abu ye isko khilaati nai hai sai tarha. Kal isko hard boil egg khila rahi thi wo iss se khaya nai Gaya is k galay main phans Gaya mainay isko patla sa cerelac bna k diya tow kha lia. Har 2 ghantay bad bachay ko khilaana hota hai ye usay bhooka rakhti hai isliye sai nai sota. After that I went to bring water for them. Mama said tum humaray pas betho kisi servant ko kaho pani le aaye. Then I went to make up the dinning table for lunch, tow sil started saying very harshly apko bachay ko encourage karna chahiye to survive without maid ap jahan jaatay hain bolnay lag jatay hain humari bachi week hogai hai uskay pas maid nai hai ap humari insult karaatay hain. Phir abu ko ghussa aya abu said apko humaray beech main interfere karna he nai chahiye. Sil ne mama ko ungli dikha k rudely kaha ap ne Islamabad wali sil k ghar ja k baat ki hai ap ne gullible ki dewrani ki Ami ko b kaha hai humari besti ki hai. Jhootay blames lagaanay shuru kar diye. Phir I called abu k aap aajaein rehnay dain aa k lunch kar lain. Abu aa Gaye mama b khari hui tow sil b khari ho aagay ho k larnay lag gai mama se. Phir maine mama ko b Bula Lia in dinning room. Phir sil dinning main b aagai aur phorvse batameezi se bolna shuru kar dia ap ne falaanay ko ku bola aisay ku kaha hai? Phir abu ne hubby ko kaha k apni sis ko bolo chup karay hum nay is se kisi Kisam ki baat nai ki hai aur ye humari insult karnay lag gai hai. My hubby didn’t say a word n kept smiling. Abu repeated this again to hubby he was still smiling. N sil on the other hand was non stop insulting n blaming. She said Maine tow Gullible ko medicine b di thi isku tabiyat kharab thi poochain gullible se di thi k nai. I said yes. Still she repeated it 3 4 times. Then abu said ap ye bbar bar bol k Kya show karana chahti hain mujhay? That u r very small? Apko to humaray maamlay main interfere he nai karna chahiye apki tow apni behan ghar pe bethi hai apko tow zada khayal karna chahiye ku k issi kisam ki baatein hoti hain Jo extreme pe chali jati hain aur seperations ho jati hain. Phir my hubby said uncle nai personal nai hona chahiye abu said tow apni sis ko bolo chup karay wo ku personal ho rahi hai. Meri sil said apko tow shukar karna chahiye apko itni achhi jaga rishta mil gya hai. Abu ne b kaha ap ne itna maang maang k peechay par par k rishta liya tha aur ab ap aisi baatain kar rahay hain. Then sil said to mama ap ne ku kaha tha gullible ko servant ko kaho pani le k aaye? Aap ne ye mujhay sunaya hai. Abu ne b kaha k koi zaroorat nai gullible tumhain yahan koi kam karnay ki. Jo kaam ho naukar ko awaaz de kar kraya karo. I was weeping throughout these dialouges n my yonger brother felt bad for me n started weeping too n left the room. My parents didn’t even had their lunch n left. My sil called my mil abroad next day n told her all the story. N from the same day the all including my Karachi wali sil, sil in the house, Karachi wali sil ka beta beti they stopped talking to me. I used to say Salam to them, they didn’t reply. I say down with them in lounge they all stood up and went in the bedroom. If I sat on the seat next to them, they used to change their seats. N karachi wali sil used to taunt me too. My mil came back home a week ago, first day she was normal with me after that my khi wali sil fed her against me n she stopped talking to me. N gave more importance to my dewrani infront of me specially. After 2 days my mil, Karachi wali sil n younger bil brainwashed hubby against me that ask ur wife to sorry us. It’s her parents mistake. My hubby came in the room and talked too badly with me n said I don’t know anything u have to say sorry to them tomorrow. I said I wasn’t even involved y I say sorry. I said it’s ok for me to say sorry to sil who lives with us as abu took her name n she is faultless. I will definitely b saying sorry to her from parents behalf but I won’t say sorry to Karachi wali sil. N to mil, She should listen to the whole story. Sil ne apni ghalti tow nai btaai hogi mil ko meray parents par blame Kia hoga. Since then hubby too is not talking to me. Mil taunts me wenever she gets a chance. My Islamabad wali sil called me n listened the story from me. N she has advised me to talk to mil n tell her the story politely. My parents haven’t talked to my mil or fil cuz they think it might worsen the things. Kya karoon?
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wow....that's a lenghty rant.
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My Islamabad wali sil wants to help me but she says Ami se baat karoon ge tow wo kahain ge k meri beti ki side lenay k bjaye bahu ki le rahi hai. She says Wese b jab Ami khi wali sil k sath hoti hain tow kisi ki nai sunti. She said khi wali sil ki dominating tabiyat hai wo Ami ko b bharti rehti hai aur mere khilaaf b hoi hui hai ajkal.
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Could you please summarise it 
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It's Already summarized enough
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You know why do you get married in the first place? How peaceful was your life before all this "jhumal"? WHY i ask you WHY?
im so sorry huni bout whts happened PM me ur mail id i will send u sumthing inshallah things will be ok
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Gullible i'm sorry but ur parents esp dad didn't handle it right. ur hubby is not handling it right either. so its u only. suck it up gal n say sorry to each n everyone. make up n forget it wat ever happened. no explanations. they won't listen no matter wat u do or say.
nahi jhuko gee tu toot jayo gee. theres nothing more i can say now.
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My patience failed after 4th sentence.
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^ I knw 
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oh its too long :/
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The part about your little brother leaving the room crying is kinda heartbreaking, poor guy.
At least one of your SIL doesn't resent you.
Your husband's actions are pretty typical for a Pakistani husband.
I'm sorry to hear that your resident SIL has a big mouth, but your parents shouldn't have led her on. Even if they were being insulted, they should have ignored the big mouth for your sake, after all, you have to put up with your SIL not your parents.
Y'all need a cooling down period. Lets hope things get better in time.
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hey gullible, why don't you break it up into short paragraphs?? It's hard to read it cuz the lines all keep on getting mixed and we all lose focus.. We're all here to help :)
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Scenarios like these are so typical in desi culture and really unfair for poor wives and really make me hate this aspect of our culture.
I'm gonna go give my mother a hug now, she's been through scenarios like these 5x worse.
now this is really rude, if you don’t have anything worthy to say, don’t say anything at all. go flood somewhere else 
**"My hubby didn't say a word n kept smiling. Abu repeated this again to hubby he was still smiling."
I find such behavior from a husband to be very disturbing. Out of ALL the reasonable facial expressions he could have displayed (humiliation, discomfort, seriousness, worried).........he chose to **SMILE?
I know that some people smile and giggle out of nervousness/discomfort.........and maybe one could use this as an excuse to think positively about the husband. But such a reaction....is unbelievably stupid. If he was NOT smiling out of discomfort.........I'd hate to think he was smiling because he was deriving pleasure from the drama.
Gullible.........more power to you for being able to love your husband. And forgive me for saying this.........but what a LOSER!
The married women on GS who have experience in this issue.......can advise you better on how to handle things.
In my opinion...............when your SIL started accusing your father of doing her family's "baizzati"............she was acting like an immature child. Your father is older and should have remained more calm.....and think to himself that "mujh se choti hai....she's getting emotional over nothing...I should explain things to her in a calm manner."
Your father should have nicely explained to your SIL k "Dekho beta, aisa nahin jaisay tum soch rahi ho. Har maan baap ko apnay bachon ki fikar hoti hai, hamari beti humay weak lag rahi thi.....to hum ne bas general way main......aik aam way....main kaha k tum maid rakh lo. Koi banda doosray bandi ki neeyat nahin jaan sakta. Har banday ko apni neeyat ka KHUD pata hota hai. Koi parents apni beti k susraal main jaan booj kar problems nahin create karain gay. Yeh rishtey bahut sensitive hotay hain....aur hum ne bas general way main kaha tha. Bla bla bla bla bla bla bla bla"
*****Anyways your SIL ALSO said that you looked weak....it wasn't only your parents that made this comment. Your abbu could also have mentioned that calmly.
Tumharay abu ne jab kaha "Tum hamaray maamly main kyoon interfere kar rahi ho".............aisay response se tumhari stupid SIL ne socha hoga k tumharay abbu guilty hain aur is liye explanation nahin dey rahay. Aur tumhari SIL ne yeh bhi socha hoga k maamla sirf aap ka nahin balke hamari family ka bhi (which is a stupid soch and your SIL is a stupid woman). Lekin shayad agar tumharay abu araam se aur pyaar se explain karte....to shayad tumhari SIL would calm down.
*******Aur tumharay Abbu ko aisa bilkul bhi nahin kehna chahiye that k* "aap k sister divorced ghar main baithi hui hai." Yeh......baat ghalat thi, Gullible. I agree that your SIL is the one who made the mistake........but your father should NEVER **have made the comment about the divorced sister. Kyoon k yeh bahut **SENSITIVE topic hai. Aur tumharay abu ko bilkul nahin pata k SIL ki divorce kyoo hui thi. Yeh bhi ho sakta hai k SIL k husband ki ghalati thi jis ki wajah se divorce hogayi ho. Hamari society aisi hai k har divorced aurat ko guilty aur kasoor-war samajhti hai...even if the divorced woman is innocent. I'm not saying that your SIL...is an innocent divorced woman..............but your father shouldn't have brought that up. Ab tum socho........k koi maa aisa nahin chahay gi k log us ki divorced beti ko taanay dey. Aisi baatain EGO ko bahut chubti hain. Aur tumharay abu ki yeh "divorce" wali baat MIL ko bahut buri lagi ho gi.
******* Ghaltiyan** DONO** sides se hui hain. Sab se bari ghalati SIL ki thi. Lekin woh SIL chahay jitni bhi badtameezi karay........tumhary abu ko ussay apni beti samajh kar araam se samjhana chahiye tha. Abbu should have tried to stay calm.
Lekin....your husband's behavior was very rude. Kya tumharay husband ko apni behan ki badtamizi par sharam nahin aayi? Mehmaan k saath is tarha se paish aatay hain? What an immature husband.....I feel more mad at him than at your SIL.
Anyhow........when you try to act friendly with your SILS.......they leave the room or sit away from you. So, they basically ignore you. Woh tumhay lift hi nahin dey rahay. Ignore kartey jaa rahay hain.
Maybe your parents.........need to talk to you MIL....very CALMLY.......and explain their intentions behind their comments. In my opinion a MATURE DISCUSSION between the families SHOULD be able to calm the tension down. Lekin.........kya pata......discussion karnay se..........tumhari MIL tum par ilzam lagaye k tum apne parents se susraal ki buri baatain karti ho.
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Redvelvet Dont mind me asking but what is your profession?
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im sorry sister ur husband is very very insensitive n has no guts n is a complete jerk.
u have 2 options .....................i know its not easy , but whats the point ..... u call this life ?? not being able to hire help for ur self??? wht is ur majbori? y r u puttin up wid it ? y this appologetic behaviour? wht hav u done wrong?
if u want my honest advice .............. get out of there , its really not worth it
u sud know better.
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trust me u can never change him
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im sorry sister ur husband is very very insensitive n has no guts n is a complete jerk.
u have 2 options .....................i know its not easy , but whats the point ..... u call this life ?? not being able to hire help for ur self??? wht is ur majbori? y r u puttin up wid it ? y this appologetic behaviour? wht hav u done wrong?
if u want my honest advice .............. get out of there , its really not worth it
u sud know better.
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ghar choor ka ap ka pass aa jie :)