Re: My story needs ur patience to read.
Gullible basically uneed to evaluate ur options.
Current situation: Noone talking to u not even the husband. N all dis is bothering u badly. There is one thing u shud learn in life. dont care about ppl who dont care about u. The kind of inlaws u have, them not talking to u isn't that important n disturbing, tho the air still stays thick wid tension, n no normal human likes it dat way. But if some1 is wrong n hurting dey r dat n dey should b avoided.
The most disturbing part is ur husband. His silence at the first stage, his shameless smile , and current behaviour.
Our pakistani men r the most weekest for wut ihave observed, there only mardangi pride is that v r physically stronger then men.
Allah has appointed man the head of the house. Why? So he maintains n peace n does justice to all.
Everyone including wife's rights are clearly defined.
No ur husband has acted way disgusting , going as far as asking u to apologize n not listening to ur explanation.
Gullible ur husband , inlaws , mil r not the end of ur life that their narazgi specially sils n mils , is torturing u so badly.
Many women survive successfully in joint fam sys due to supporting n listening to their wives woes. I dont means dils r never scheming .
No look at ur chances and future consequences
1) U apologize to all all simply n make up wid everyone.
drawback: u can expect similar apologies crossing ur way again, since despite not being at fault u gave in, jo dab gaya den he becomes victim.
But still future cud b diff
2) U try to explain things to ur husband. if he listens, n gets nicer to u, fine den dont care about inlaws, r make steady moves towards patch up. U have one husband only , ur inlaws r not ur husband. remember.
3) Reading in other threads about ur mil , explaining things to her, incase ur hus doesnt listen to u, also doesnt sound too positive, but ucan try, but i read u somewhere calling her cunning, she cud also misinterpret explanation from ur end n exploit more.
4) Calling in parental support. Specially if u have a strong baq.
In dis case many things can happens. mutual apologies from both ends cud happen. Or matters cud b worsened. Also parental support includes u moving baq to ur parents for sometime. Things not getting solved, inlaws acting stiff cud result in divorce.
5) Deciding whether u want to apologize or not. Not apologizing can result in what consequences , think over that n see if u will b ready for things in future. And what apologizing can bring.
How much u still love husband . Incase u break up, baby will stay wid whom.
Everyone has a diff way of problem solving. Jo bura karta hai one day reaps that.
The rule "i am always wrong" stated in some other thread is the most absurdest i eva read unless there is no way out NO WAY OUT. Fine somtimes such rules r effectual but like not always. Dekho apna haq fite karna parta hai . Dat is y m telling u , evaluate all extremes.
I c u as a weak person at the moment. U dont know how to take stand for urself. But time will teach u as u r going thru hard stuff.
I dont want to give u any specific advice , except for that u have to be patient. Cuz telling u outrite to apologize , like many ppl have done, makes me think, wud those ppl if in such situation will do the same???? I dont think they all will. U r bearing the pain u know how tuff it is. That is y iam telling u c wut u want.
As an aside: Kabhi kabhi life may bohat kuch u have to sacrifice , that includes ur ego too. By that idont mean u go and do it, and not exactly about ur circumstances , imean dis is life, dis is called TRIAL.