My story- dumped by a bangladeshi guy

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you should have asked him for a handcuff and chain instead then. i have never heard of an unmarried couple who dont have a physical relationship/live together buying a house because "we had nowhere to go".

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I think she means that they intended to live in the house after getting married. By "we had nowhere to go," I think she means that living with either set of parents (as expected) was not an option and they would be living independently and hence, needed a house.

**I could be wrong but that was my interpretation of it.

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thats right.

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One of the reasons he left, because of physical relationship.

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I know that the hatred of Bangladeshi people against Pakistan is very deep and its only being encouraged in the Bangladeshi media.
Its not my personal opinion but I heard it from a Bangladeshi friend.
Having said that I do have two Bengali family members living in UK.
One happens to be a girl who married my (Pakistani) cousin (against the will of her parents because her parents wanted to force her to get married to some Banglad. guy).
Second example is of my sister cousin who married a nice Bangald. guy who now have two children and are very happy.

Both of them have children and are living a happy life AlhamdoeLillah.

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Unfortunately, I've heard the same. A close friend of mine has been looking for rishtas here quite a long time but she can't find a bengali family that's at the same level of conservativeness as them. I mentioned maybe looking into the pakistani community since there's a lot more options and she said that her parents have forbidden her from ever even thinking about that because of "what they did to our ancestors"... :/

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1> :hugz:… you are going through a difficult time, insha-Allah, Allah SWT give you sabr. As people have already told you, time is a great healer. It maybe 1 day or 2 years; time is not the constraint here. Patience and the willingness to let go of the past and concentrating on yourself and what you want in life is most important now – Do not give yourself too much time to dwell on what could have been and concentrate on the aaj & ab.
2> 30, :bummer:, I am going to be 30 and it may seem like a big number but its just a number :hugz:, love can happen at any age, keep your heart young and mind open. There is a grand plan in the bigger scheme of things so have faith and trust that you will get the best. Keep looking and make wise decisions.
3> If he wanted a physical relationship, that could be one of the reasons for this break-up…spineless piece of $^%$^#$%…:nono:
4> Lastly, yes I shall talk about the house… it has your savings and you do not want to squander it away, so hold onto it..rent it out if the memories will hurt you - it is a source of income, please do not make any hasty decisions at this point of time.. Its yours, keep it

insha-Allah, hope everything works out for you in the end. Take Care, and GS is always here for you :slight_smile:

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When you say he bought the house for you on your demand so "you had somewhere to go", is that something you think is normal? Do you blame his parents if they think you might be a little pushy after marriage? Perhaps they see a grenade and want to save their immature son who cant see clearly?

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You guys are getting upity over nothing. I said I didn't mean any offense when I said "Bengaliness or Ultra Browness". Ok we all know that most bengali's are brown. They're extra brown (NO OFFENSE INTENDED). I'm just stating the truth here. So I had assume that the guy OP was talking about is brown and lo and behold he is actually a brown guy. That's nothing wrong with that. Most girls prefer white guys. I thought that since she's Pakisatani and us Pakistanis are expected to like an or try to be white. If someone is too dark then people make some sort of comments. I just wanted to know how she accepted a bengali guy. Not because of his brownness but because of his culture. Bengalis have a totally different culture than us. I once asked my Bengali friend when was the last time he ate roti (desi roti round one). He said "3 years ago". His diet consisted solely on boiled rice and eggs. Mixed with some fish broth. The though had me aghast. I mean would you be willing to live with someone who ate boiled rich and fish mixture all year long? I mean no offense here but kiss them? I would actually faint at the thought of my wife eating anything fish related and then sleeping with me. I don't go to the beach because I smell fish. Ok OK I gota stop I'm typing too much crap here.

P.S No offense intended to anyone with a preference to seafood and or brownness. I'm serious NO OFFENSE INTENDED

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Mc “PAINDOO” jii, this just goes to show that you are judging an **entire community **coming up with baseless conculaions and misconceptions upon coming across a few Bengali people.
We have a mixed population of fair, brown and EXTRA BROWN people just as in Pakistan. In fact, ny Pakistani relatives are way more darker than us…we have fair skin, colored eyes etc…which you wouldn’t associate with “Bengaliness” right??? :smack:
I really don’t get it…why do you Pakis always think you’re better off than us? based on what? Your skin color? Because you guys have roti and gosht everyday instead of rice and Fish?? How on earth does this make you better off than any of us?

Your comments on food…AGAIN they’re soo soo wrong…not all Bengalis have rice and fish everyday…and even if they do ,have you heard of sometihng called "brushing one’s teeth’?? im sure it happens in Pakistan too right?. Pls don make it sound like we smell of fish all the time…

This EXACTLY is one of the reasons why Bengali parents are always apprehensive when it comes to letting their sons/daughters marry Pakistanis…subconsciously most Pakistanis always think they somehow they’re “better” than Bengalis

P.S Sorry for this rant…this post is totally not related to the original Post..:stuck_out_tongue:

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You’re getting carried away here a little. My initial post mentioned that I didn’t want it to be taken as offensively. I see that you feel strongly regarding my comments about the Bengalis. In this regard I apologize if I have offended you in any way. I consider Bengalis as equal as Pakistanis. I think they’re a loving and kind folk, they have a really interesting culture/language. Even my best friend who’s also my colleague is a Bengali. Now my original question albeit a bit harsh towards Bengalis was that how OP decided to accept the Bengali guy since she’s a Pakistani. The only reason I asked this question is that I find it a bit difficult for individuals to marry outside of their culture. Now that’s only my opinion and as a person I am entitled to my own opinion. There is absolutely nothing and i mean unequivocally nothing wrong with marrying outside of your culture/religion. If you love someone surely you can look past your differences. After all we’re human beings, in the end it all boils down to one thing which is procreation. Right now the “Bengaliness” I was wrong to use that word and I apologize for it once again. I should’ve used different words all together or probably should’ve PM’d OP instead.

We Pakistanis are a mixed culture and I know that very well, I myself am a very brown man. Sometimes I get mistaken for a Bengali guy. I never take offense to that. I was once mistaken for a Filipino actor, actually I took offense at that. But that was at the emergency room for I cut my finger while cutting tomatoes (It was pretty bad they had to do X-rays and everything on my finger) AND the nurse was hitting on me cause she thought I looked like a Filipino actor. Below is an actual picture of my finger if you don’t believe me. It was really bad. I couldn’t type for two whole weeks.

But I digress, I love the Bengalis they’re amazing people. I have no qualms with anyone eating fish or brushing their teeth. If you love someone then I mean come on Love is a crazy thing. There are people who fall in love with various things that aren’t even human. You should watch National Geographic’s show called “Taboo” there is a woman who fell in love with a WALL. Like literally a wall. Ok im out..

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^^^ great way to show finger . they all totally deserve it for coming on to you like that. Back off you women people. Leave my bro alone. He is already hurt.

:hugz:

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Lol finger is all healed bro it works now. This was back in 2012 :smiley:

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