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Fayz stop fliritng with other women 
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MQ, are you getting hot and bothered? breathe..girl…breathe… 
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matsui-- With you I wouldnt get hot and bothered if you begged me. Something the matter?
sara-- I dont mind him looking. Come on Im not that silly. I just meant him being interested in other women or checking them out. Thats different . I might as well remain single.
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mq, why dont u get ur guy castrated. i bet he aint gonna check girls no more..nomesayn
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Well you may not be that silly but I know girls who are that crazy
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How do you know he's interested in them? Is he actually going up to them? Chatting them up? Getting their contact info?
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lussi-- Koi kaam ki baat karo or go jump over a cliff.
Why are you lot thinking I will lock him up in his room. Hes free to do as he likes. I just wonder if one person is enough for him. Neither party should be checking others out if they are committed. And yeah Im talking about checking out and that harmless flirting etc.
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MQ i sugguest you educate him on the 'lowering his gaze'. it says clearly in the Qur'an about these things. & "checking out" another girl & flirty... this is definitely not allowed! if he doesnt wanna commit zinah with his eyes, than he should avoid such things.
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i just wanna point out, there is no such things as harmless flirty... you are doing yourself great harm by doing it (IE racking up those sins)
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Indeed…thats what I was saying…it;s not harmless…and when i said “satisfaction” I was being sarky.
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seriously ** LK ** people are crazy. if they feel the need to flirt... i think there is something wrong. they should either go out and get married or if they are married they need to pay more attention to their spouse.
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MQ, jealousy is something everyone deals with in one way or another. When you find someone, if you don't trust them, you won't be happy. You also can drive someone away by being too possessive. In this world, it really is too much to expect your man not to speak or even look at someone else, just like no one has the right to expect the same of you.
Looking is just looking. Flirting is just flirting. Talking is just talking. As long as they are not to excess or something someone does 24/7.
My husband comes in contact with a lot of people and part of his job is mild flirting and flattery. It means nothing. He comes home to me and I know he is faithful to me, just as he knows I am faithful to him. When it is right, you know.
It is kind of funny, now he will nudge me and point girls out to me. I just laugh and remind him how old he is.
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M_Q thank God I have met someone who thinks like me in this issue :D
Yes, I agree with you. Your significant other should not even LOOK at another woman, nor find any other women attractive/good looking. And yes, he should not talk about other na-mehrams. Talking about his mom and sisters is okay. Just that.
And yes he should not watch programs on TV where there are female singers singing alone or dancing etc. And preferably he should not talk to other females unless necessary. No unnecessary chit chat.
And you should give him the same level in return as well.
And there ARE guys like that so I don't think our expectations are unrealistic.
So don't worry, its possible :)
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** minah_pa ** you have a good mind set, a couple needs to have trust. yes talking is talking, but i dont think that flirting is the same thing as flattery.
i agree with ** irem ** there is a limit to everything
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I just thought it was worth another read. It will or should help others here. You sound like a sensible girl…I’m sure your hubby is appreciative of your approach and respects you for that.
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Minah-- well people will have different views about that too.There was a time when my dads secretary tried to flirt with an employee who was new to the job. My dad got really upset over it. In his views - and I guess this might be where I get some of mine from - one should not have to do something of the sort. Morally, its wrong. Especially in the work place,to me its inappropriate.
I believe in trust and love and so on. I just dont believe that one should love and trust the other person when he is doing something that might hurt you. Maybe its not realistic, but I cant help feeling this way.
Irem-- long lost sisters eh. I dont mind him looking, I do mind him checking them out or flirting. To me its cheap and superficial. And people are worth more than that. And yeah I know its psosible, Ive so far met two guys like that. Quite rare but at least its not completely hopeless.:D
hhs4462-- thanks for the input. I hope I end up with somebody who can live up to some of my expectations.
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** that’s gotta be one of the most sane and best replies 've ever read.. **
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Irem sigh kia banay ga tumhara larki ...
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No, hon, sorry, I should have explained that one. He owns a few business. It is a part of doing business with others in the world (part salesman, part just good business). Flirting with other employee's is a definite no-no, illegal here too. Your dad was absolutely right.
Also, people are worth more than that, but it is also natural. I work with a lot of athletes and I see some men (and occasionally women) that I look at twice.
Does that mean I want to have sex with them? NO, just that some people are beautiful and worth a second look. Most of these kids are kids a couple of years off my children's ages, yuck.......
Does it mean I blatantly flirt? No, not appropriate at all for me, however my boss occasionally has visitors that I mildly flirt with. Nothing serious and no thought what-so-ever with cheating or having sex. One has little to do with the other. The men are the same way, it has nothing to do with cheating.
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Well no problem. I know you're making sense.
I didnt say one cant look, Im just against the whole checking out or flirting - and even mild flirting - er Im just not for it. Never have been, and I doubt if I ever will be.
you all pray for me and my future hubby. :D